• galoisghost@aussie.zoneEnglish
    132·
    10 months ago

    Sounds like a great book that will sell well and sit on bedside tables in piles of books that people really need to read soon.

  • Captain_Waffles@lemmy.worldEnglish
    531·
    10 months ago

    Yep, so many “self help” books have such great advice like “No energy? Have you tried going for a walk?”. WITH WHAT ENERGY‽‽‽

    • Newtra@pawb.socialEnglish
      61·
      10 months ago

      I’ve had psychiatrists push this crap.

      One even refused to write me a prescription and insisted I just needed to get outside more after listening to an hour-long recounting of how my ADHD makes self-care difficult to impossible.

      • Captain_Waffles@lemmy.worldEnglish
        8·
        10 months ago

        I had a psychiatrist send me off with the helpful suggestion to start working out, I was a lifeguard and literally had to work out to keep my job. He also told me I couldn’t have ADHD because I’d graduated high school, without checking if I actually had. Like I did, but he just assumed that. The kid who showed up twice a week and turned in work never also graduated. My school had an excellent graduation rate, just ignore all the people who graduated unable to read past a 5 year old level.

        I’m still undiagnosed, though not for lack of trying. One doc wanted me to stop literally every medication I was on for like an entire month “to get a baseline”, and when I refused he prescribed me something I couldn’t take anyway, and I never went back. I’m chronically ill, that would literally land me in the hospital.

        • Newtra@pawb.socialEnglish
          3·
          10 months ago

          That’s some awful gaslighting.

          I have no idea how these people make it through 8-12 years of college without even getting their understanding of common diseases up to a wikipedia level.

          • Captain_Waffles@lemmy.worldEnglish
            2·
            10 months ago

            Yeah, like it’s terrifying that people can go through a decade of education and training and still not have a grasp on some of the basics of their field. I expect to have to explain my migraine because I have a pretty rare subtype (like I’m the first person my neurologist has treated), but I shouldn’t have to explain why I can’t take a medication that says on the pamphlet “DO NOT TAKE IF YOU HAVE [CONDITION I HAVE]”. I’m not expecting every doctor to understand a neurological condition that affects less than 1 in 8,000 people, but I do expect them to accept that I do have it and not treat me like I’m being uncooperative for not being willing to risk a significant increase in risk of life threatening side effects.

  • corship@feddit.deEnglish
    522·
    10 months ago

    More like, how to survive without the required psychopathic tendencies.

    • MonkeMischief@lemmy.todayEnglish
      4·
      10 months ago

      “I really don’t want to cut the legs out from under my fellow people so I can get my bread. That’s mean.”

      “Well hey now we just call that ‘being competitive in the workplace’. How are you going to hold a basic job and keep paying your bills under this system then?”

      😐

  • Mikina@programming.devEnglish
    22·
    10 months ago

    Does anyone have any recommendations for books like that? A productivity book written for people who can’t for the love of god stick to any system? I’ve tried a lot of them. Read a bunch of books, implemented gazzilion of systems, but everything seems to last only for a few days (during which I procrastrinate by setting it up), then it holds for a while, before being forgotten almost instantly.

    And most importantly, all those books just assume that if you plan your day, you’re actually going to stick to that plan. And once you start moving tasks from one day to the next, the whole thing falls appart…

    • MechanicalJester@lemm.eeEnglish
      71·
      10 months ago

      Outsource.

      Use your productivity moments to set up the realistic reminders about must do things and automate what can be automated.

      Practice triage. “I’ve let the dishes go for 3 days but if the trash doesn’t go out in the next 3 hours then it will be a week therefore trash comes first”

      Enlist cheerleaders that get you and be your own cheerleader to celebrate overcoming things that are obstacles to YOU. “I was feeling physically for a few days which put me behind on doing a bunch of important things around the house, and that made me feel s***** mentally. I fell off the rails with diet, sleep and exercise, and was feeling overwhelmed by all the things waiting for me to get done, but I did triage. I managed to get the trash to the road, and after doing one important thing I also did the dishes that were 3 days behind. I didn’t really crush it the rest of the day, but I feel good about how the morning went.” " Hey, that’s really great. It’s hard getting going again isn’t it? Good for you! Sometimes getting the dishes done is impressive as hell!"

      • MonkeMischief@lemmy.todayEnglish
        4·
        10 months ago

        This. Struggling really hard to get through this book because ADHD sucks sometimes…but simple Python to solve annoying problems is awesome.

        But I just stumbled through writing my first BASH script to automate an annoying process I kept typing by hand on Linux, and it feels incredible.

    • m0darn@lemmy.caEnglish
      5·
      10 months ago

      I never really was able to summon the initiative to read a book about organization etc.

      But I have learned that short term accountability is really effective to me. The system that has evolved and seems to be working okay is:

      Every week I have a meeting with my boss to talk about ongoing projects and what specific tasks I am going to complete on which dates in the coming the coming week.

      Every night after the kids are in bed my wife asks me if I have completed everything on my list for that day. (She doesn’t need to know what they are)

      What works for me is that I’m not overburdening any single person with what’s traditionally considered personal organization, and my boss isn’t micromanaging me, and doesn’t have to follow up with every task. But, I’m still getting the micro accountabilities that give me that sense of urgency because I don’t want to tell my wife I didn’t succeed.

    • athalean@feddit.deEnglish
      2·
      10 months ago

      Not a book but I love the Cortex podcast (website, youtube) for a more vibe-centric approach to productivity and it’s great to listen through the back catalogue to see what changed over the years, because neither Myke nor Grey just had a productivity system that was perfect from the start and Grey is very open with his struggles. Episode #101 has a bit of a primer on how to get started, but don’t get hung on the apps discussion and more on the parts where they talk about what if someone needs to organise their life. Yearly Themes is also great, especially since the new year is almost here, and you can expect an episode on it this month.

      Little warning upfront though, the target audience is very much people who have a lot of tech in their life. You might need to filter through that, and it’s easy to bounce off because it’s a lot of two relatively rich guys talking about how spending money is solving all their problems. If that’s too much, I understand.

      From that podcast I’ve gotten the recommendation of Getting Things Done, which is about the trappings of organising your tasks in your head (especially relevant for people with ADHD, I think) and Triggers, which is about how the environment makes certain tasks easier or harder. Both are good, but both are business books.

  • MonkeMischief@lemmy.todayEnglish
    233·
    10 months ago

    My favorite is all the “time management / your own business / quit your job / you can follow your dreams too” books.

    Every inside cover: "Bob McBourgoi was just like you, making $500k a year in a soulless corporate job, but like you, he wanted something more from life.

    He decided to quit that job (so scary!) and use a fraction of his $80k in savings and a humble plea for a $100k loan from his parents (so brave!) to start on his dream life of being a (game designer / pet stylist / interior vibe checker / indie band frontman / painter).

    It was super risky. Could he really tell his Real Housewife that he was turning down the cashflow for a few months? But he took the leap. What a brave guy.

    He even wrote this book. All by himself. Definitely. It includes such advice as “If you just believe in yourself” and “manifest that dream” so you too, can do something with your life that’s actually your choice."

    Bonus points for “Have you tried using a calendar?” And “The clock is a useful tool to know what time it is.”

    Obvious for everyone else, and ADHD kids go screw (y)ourselves basically lol.

  • Eigerloft@lemmy.worldEnglish
    13·
    10 months ago

    It’s just one page and it’s Omni-Man saying “That’s the neat part, you don’t!”

    • LoamImprovement@ttrpg.networkEnglish
      1·
      10 months ago

      In a capitalist hellscape, any amount of damage is damaged beyond all hope because everyone is completely interchangeable, and ultimately, disposable.

      So, y’know, you’re not wrong.