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      i’m pretty new here (came with the exodus), and it seemed like it would be better for a bit. but i just told a family member a couple hours ago that it seems like the worst of reddit is starting to show up.

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        I actually saw an increase as well, but lately its become friendlier again. I think it might have to do with the recent waves of defederation, but which instance did it, I don’t know

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    The thing that I hate about it is that I am on the spectrum, and as such have posted things that have gotten down voted to hell and back but even when I ask why, I never get an answer. The question “why is this happening I don’t understand” only feeds the down votes. Now, idgaf about internet points, I’d just like to know what’s wrong about what I said.

    And for the record I’m normal ASD, not the 4chan Hitler shit, so it’s not because I said anything racist lol

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            Funny you should say that. I have always eaten fairly healthy, but since a year I’ve really doing my best to really eat healthy. Cutting out any fast food, a lot of sugar, way less alcohol, less salt etc. I am not an absolutist, and a few weeks ago I was craving pizza. Ordered NY Pizza, felt like I had salt poisoning for half a day afterwards. It really made me feel physically bad. Taste was good though.

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    I got permanently banned from personal finance for pointing out that America doesn’t have healthcare and it’s a sad problem for employees who get trapped.

    The mod situation over there is getting comically bad. Hopefully this place ends up being much less toxic.

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      No fuck you :-P

      Jk, ily

      It’s true, we dont have healthcare unless your a member of congress, old, or poor. And old and poor people still have really shitty healthcare. The rest of us have “good” health insurance where a medically necessary sleep apnea test consisting of me getting to borrow a $200 sensor for 2 nights and a few minutes of someone analyzing the data, cost me $700 out of pocket.

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        Between the VA, Medicaid, Medicare, Private Insurance, cash patients, free clinics, HMOs…and then in the prescription world, private insurance, cash discount groups (i.e. GoodRX), store membership programs, and PBMs…America really has literally every type of insurance.

        And unfortunately, the systems that the rest of the civilized world realized long ago are the “best” are, in America, the worst implemented and worst funded (state-funded (by a small flat tax) universal coverage and Medicare, which only covers the most sick and frail chunk of the population)…while the least efficient system (Private insurance) is not only the most common in working-age people, but also often either tied to employers or prohibitively expensive (quite a sticker shock looking at COBRA or Marketplace plans before realizing that healthcare is quite often the second most expensive part of payroll, and for low-wage workers may even be the most expensive).

        And then there’s the VA, which could be a great system, except the government consistently fucks the doctors and the hospitals and surprised-pikachu’s when it falls on its face over and over again.

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    My SO doesn’t like the plot of my favorite movie, how do I convince my SO to watch the movie with me?

    r/relationshipadvice: RED FLAG! GET OUT NOW! DONT WALK AWAY, RUUNNNN!

    any comment suggesting giving another chance is downvoted to oblivion

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    We still get our share of toxicity here. I mused recently that if you’re assessing the success of lemmy/kbin on how close an experience to reddit it is - I’ve been attacked in the same ways by hyper fixated debate lords here too

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    It’s not that they downvote, it’s how they downvote. Which I’ve seen some of it here but not as much.

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      Yes, downvotea are fine. It’s a form of moderation. Downloading things that add to the conversation but you disagree with is childish

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        I generally try not to downvote comments unless someone says something either very stupid or if it’s some sort of propaganda. If someone makes a good argument against me, or just disagrees with me, I don’t downvote their replies.

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          If it’s good enough, upvote it!

          If it’s rude or dull, wasting your, and everyone’s time, downvote it.

          If it’s neither, do nothing.

          Voting is for visibility, not agreement.

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            With posts, sure, but comments aren’t posts or content they are part of a conversation. You don’t need to downvote a comment to elevate another. You can simply upvote.Let me put it to you this way, you are having a conversation with someone then a stranger comes along and starts booing at something you said, would you think it’s necessary? There is a similar concept in black mirror where people all rate each other. Its not conducive to a welcoming environment when we start downvoting people for things because they are ‘dull’ and becomes toxic quickly, it’s a form of emotional/social violence.

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              I agreed you don’t need to downvore one to elevate another. However, done commenta merit upvote. Many merit nothing but reading. Some merit downvotes.

              At a guess, I’d say one downvotes for every 50 upvotes is my stat, but the downvote button has a purpose.