And apparently, also when you think that āTheyā is a perfectly serviceable gender-neutral singular pronoun, but are willing to use other pronouns if asked to.
EDIT: Other removable offenses on Blahaj now include questioning mod/admin decisions and quoting the modlog as a reason why youāre leaving.
Okay, but that literally has nothing to do with the point you were claiming to vindicate.
And Blahaj users literally canāt downvote, so, uhā¦ I donāt really know what you think that proves?
āVeiled language for intent to continue misgenderingā
Jesus Christ.
Dragons arenāt real.
A person cannot be something that is literally a fictitious creature.
Hate repeating myself.
Or Ada is below the already-low bar of FlyingSquidās moderation, which is pretty damn low.
Oof, and there we go. āAda is worse than the (perhaps second) most universally depised modā from you says it all, and Iām happy we reached this conclusion.
To sum up and end it: I donāt believe you are a transphobe, as others have unfortunately claimed.
But you do have an inappropriate sense of entitlement to an instance owned by a trans woman.
And, when that trans women made a decision about how to deal with harrassment on her instance, using mod action and suppression of bigoted behavior from all sides rather than allowing bigotry and misgendering, you responded with a full-force rebuke across communities against her that she did not draw the line for her community exactly where you did.
I hope your time away from blahaj is good for you. Go and talk to trans people. Learn that most of them are so overwhelmed by harassment that they would rather have trolls banned for trolling than endlessly bullied for their gender expression in their spaces.
You centered yourself in a space that is not yours. Thatās your issue. Now itās your responsibility to get over it.
Entitlement is when you leave, I guess.
Letās go over the timeline, shall we?
Ada makes decision I do not agree with.
I sadpost and express my discontent with it in the same comment I express an intent to leave, neither of which are on the meta post in which the decision was announced, nor in either was Ada involved as a conversant. In fact, in the course of the sadpost, I say I understand the motivations, itās just not a place for me.
Ada removes several of those comments for dubious reasons.
I bitch about that on a comm made for bitching about mods.
I get accused of being a transphobe for not believing in dragons on said comm made for bitching about mods.
I am accused of feeling entitled to Blahaj.
The Tumblr defensive swarm mentality was shite there and itās shite here, and if Iād realized it was how Blahaj was going to react to people, I never wouldāve posted there in the first place.
Learn to take criticism, or get off the net.
Please, @[email protected] outline to me how that timeline is indicative of entitlement.
Right there. You tell a trans woman how to run her space. Thats entitlement.
Now I of course donāt know why the comments were removed, perhaps the entitlement, or more to do with the fact that they encouraged further bad behavior in an already hostile situation.
But you came into a space that isnāt for you, and told trans people how to handle a situation that doesnāt affect you. Sorry for using emotional language, but your pathetic āsadpostā is a slap in the face to the daily onslaught of harassment trans people face. Then you didnāt stop. Your subsequent days-long crashout proves to me that Ada made the right choice.
āLearn to take criticism or get off the
netinstanceā yourself. My best wishes for your time away.ā¦ āThis isnāt for me, so Iām going to leave, even though I understand and donāt denigrate the basic reasoning.ā
āStop trying to tell her how to run her instance! This is entitlement!ā
Fucking what.
I specifically mentioned in that very point that you cut off, in case you forgot how to read, that Ada was not in that conversation or thread, nor did I expect her to be.
Literally didnāt tell anyone how to handle the situation in 196. Gave no advice. Made no demands. Jesus Christ.
I love that a crashout is when someone doesnāt roll over and commit to a struggle session when accused of being transphobic for not acknowledging dragons as real.
Fuckās sake, youāve taken āI donāt agree with this decision so Iām literally leaving, wish you the bestā as some kind of demand for submission.
Tumblr behavior. Utterly deranged.
Initially I thought Iād miss Blahaj, but seeing these reactions from Blahaj commenters and defenders here? I feel more like Iāve dodged a bullet now.
My best wishes for your time away.
You have fun with your tribalist games in which reality is secondary to whatever weird persecution narrative you want to peddle.
And try to fix up your reading comprehension.
Unless by ātelling a trans woman how to run her spaceā you actually meant ānot telling a trans woman anything at all, nor saying anything even around said trans woman, nor talking about how to run the space, but expressing an intention to leave the instance in another community entirelyā, in which case you need to fix your basic sentence construction instead.
Aw, bestie! Thatās not how the Lemmy works. You made people uncomfortable, and they reported you for your content, either for what it invited or for what it was on its face. Thatās how this works! You do what someone sees as damage to the community, you get reported, Ada sees your comment. If you were truly minsundatood that badly, maybe work on using nicer words. :)
Oh wow. Okay, back up, this makes me think you misunderstand the situation entirely. Did you read the post? Genuinely think this summary might help:
So now itās not āI told Ada how to run her instanceā, itās āMy comment was reportedā, glad to see weāre moving goalposts at lightning speed. Jesus H. Christ. Are you going to actually present any argument youāre willing to stand by, or just jump from point to unrelated point in the hopes of making yourself feel like you defended the tribe sufficiently?
Did you not fucking read the OP? Holy fucking shit. I didnāt realize saying āI guess Blahaj is now added to the list of instances I avoid when possible. Unfortunate.ā was such an aggressive crime in your eyes.
Oh, wait, of course I did, anything thatās not total agreement and bootlicking of your online community of choice is an attack against the basic dignity of everyone therein. I forgot I was back on Tumblr.
Again, demonstrating a below average reading comprehension.
Continuing from your summary:
This is not complex. I should not have had to repeat that fucking conversation to anyone over the age of eight, yet here we fucking are.
At no point have you engaged with reality here. You just have some sort of desired narrative that you want to cling to, and so you cling to it in the face of all evidence to the contrary. Hell, in the very post I just responded to you accused my posts of being removed for not being worded ānice enoughā, which doesnāt even vaguely fit the removals cited in the literal OP. Iām not sure if you canāt read it, didnāt read it, or are just too attached to your narrative to read it, but in any case, itās really rather pathetic, and quite in-line with what Iāve come to expect of you. Well-intentioned (in the sense of ādesiring a gentle resolutionā), but with very little understanding or capability of parsing arguments that donāt fit your axioms. The axiom youāre using here being, of course, āThe community I like is always right and I will always defend them regardless of the facts šā
In the course of this argument, you have ignored evidence provided entirely, deliberately cut off already very-short statements in order to provide an interpretation literally and directly contrary to its explicitly stated details, ignored contradictions when pointed out, and moved goalposts, and yet at no point do you appear to have anything even vaguely resembling self-awareness on any of it. This is either incredibly bad faith on your part, or an incredibly low level of competence, and in either case, youāve done nothing but waste time with your disingenuous arguments and outright falsehoods.
Oh, and no, doing so with a ānice toneā does not change any of that.