Same rules for communists then?

You know nothing, are not American, and you comment all the time on American politics? Why are you here again?

Shills gotta do the job they’re paid for, after all …

Slippery slope on that one. Do all Nazis deserve punched in the face (and worse)? Yes! Let’s not criminalize thoughts or beliefs though, no matter how reprehensible they may be.

Sure, we are all capable of the whole gamut of political opinions, it’s foolish to gauge race as the only deciding factor. On that we agree. There is also a whole messaging thing that would need to shift for Republicans to appeal to a wider variety of people, which is what I was trying to point out. How many times has JD Vance spoke in narrow terms about “the white working class” , that’s probably not a message that appeals much to a diverse electorate. I don’t think the current Republican party would even tolerate Michael Steele at this point.

That’s hilarious, you think Republicans would try that? It’s been mask off for the open racists since Obama, they understand their base just fine.

Its an observation, sweetie.

It used to feel like a wild conspiracy that you might be engaging with some bad faith state-sponsored foreign actor in a forum, now its just Friday.

Nobody said anything about calculators, you don’t seem to understand the question. The comments about using commas in numbers in the U.S. are 100% correct.

You have a keen interest in posting all day about politics in a country you arent from. Can never answer a question about your own background.

Incessantly talk shit about Israeli policy from an anti Democratic perspective without a whif of criticism of the Republicans, who would be far worse in their full throated approval of Israeli warcrimes. What is your native language? Are you able to vote in the USA?

Your track record seems to have zero criticism of Republicans, when we know Trump would be far worse in supporting Israeli warcrimes. Just this once, can you come out and say that Trump would actually be worse for the one topic you ever seem to discuss?

I hope they are crushed, learn nothing and double down on it by running with Trump again, this time fully campaigning from prison.

Better to eat crow than the shit we’d be forced to swallow in a second trump term! Forreal though, thank you for coming out and saying it.

Nobody needs to say “I told ya so” but clearly things are moving in an energetic direction, and those of us that are sane in this country should all be pleased! Keep dunking on the fascists and speaking the obvious truth to these morons!

Correct, I help around the house and am primary parent during weekends as well as taking him with me to work regularly. Definitely an active father that takes full responsibility for my son nearly 100% of the time that I have outside of work. Thats a fair consideration when we talk about sharing of responsibilities, I don’t think I mentioned that anywhere here.

You are correct, I’m just hoping we can chill things out enough that she can understand where I’m coming from so I don’t have to completely clam up on my side.

Thanks

The shared budget has been primarily from my income. We have discussed in the past that pushing the balance back towards 50/50 is desirable and fair when she would be financially comfortable enough or that. So, our “system” has largely been informal and I am taking personal responsibility here to agree that probably should have been clarified and set ahead of time, sure. But the tie in with mutual trust, sharing, and interdependence cannot be overlooked. If I’m in a relationship I would hope a rising tide lifts all boats, because thats what Im working for. As I said, it is hurtful and leads me to question my own ability to be generous if someone is not mutually trusting. It’s likely around the corner that this question will be faced on the inverse and that is a core piece of my conflict. I already said we have big concerns that need to be addressed, but its a whole relationship, Im discussing one piece of it here to hopefully gain some perspective. Thanks for your reply though. I think I already said that in this case transparency is what I am not getting and I feel is well deserved. You can call that entitlement if you like, I call that the basics of a healthy relationship.

If you read that as a personal attack it is clear you are not here for good faith conversation. Have a nice day.

Thanks my friend, will see where the dust settles and I will let y’all know.

This is good advice, thanks for the support. I don’t need to have any say in what she does with her money, I just want her to be honest with me.

I see. Yeah the kiddo factor definitely is a big shift in the dynamic. I can see how different it would be… I get it though, if you can say “hey babe I just got a bunch of money, we are in a good spot and I would like to do x, y, and z with it” then the actualy amount is less relevant.

The deception casts a different light on some recent interactions and makes it feel like we weren’t actually engaging in good faith discussion.

For example she was recently visiting her family in California and I offered some extra loot to upgrade to a better hotel for her and her sister when I saw how pricey the options were. She could have waived me off and explained that she really doesn’t need it, clearly that money has a much larger impact in my own modest account.

A willingness to take money from your partner when they don’t know that you secretly have way more than them feels grimey. I guess the deception is what is fucking me up here. Ultimately the deception is allowing your partner to have an incomplete view of reality.

I think I am leaning towards suggesting that finances are now 50/50 across the board unless she is willing to explain to me how exactly that isn’t fair. It sucks that I am feeling like I can no longer be generous, that’s not who I want to be but it where I am at.

Yeah this is exactly all that I want. An equal split would be a complete game changer and I would be able to catch back up on my finances and not feel like everything is spoken for before it even hits my bank account. That phrase “what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is yours” is probably a good way to phrase it, and I absolutely am not looking to usurp control in any way. Thanks, another solid reply here, you guys are great. Much better responses than what you’d find on reddit. I actually started writing an AITA and deleted my account halfway through, shoulda done it earlier.

Well I don’t disagree with you on the communication point. You are taking a pretty big leap with your judgments from an extremely limited position, and I will say that I have gotten a lot of helpful support in this thread. That’s why I’m here, if you really want to know. I don’t want my relationship to fail and I am struggling to make sense of this. Have a nice day though, I hope things are forever rosy for you and you never need to reach out to strangers for support! Life gets fucking weird sometimes man. Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes and all that shit.