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  • Yes. This is a inflammatory headline purely to try and push an agenda.

    There was literally a poll a couple of months ago that showed something like 80% of Ukrainians were in favour of not having elections.

    Not to even mention that Ukraine is under Marshall Law, and per their laws disallows elections. And don’t even get me started on the entire premise of running elections in a country where a quarter of the landmass is under enemy occupation and the logistics of getting votes from 100s of thousands of deployed troops and the serious security concerns of the election itself from Russian attacks.

    In my opinion Newsweek have just outed themselves here and the question is for who?


  • fluke@lemmy.worldtoAutism@lemmy.worldAny Parents Here?
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    11 months ago

    You need to take the time to regulate. If you don’t then it just ends up in a meltdown at best, and a total shutdown at worst.

    And I’m sure everyone would rather you just swerved a social event that deal with that. I know for me, at least, I’m utterly done mentally and emotionally for a couple of days after a shutdown.

    I will hopefully assume your wife knows that you’re autistic and your needs. Just tell her that you’ve gone none-stop for two weeks and that you’re at critical point for regulation. If you can, might be worth taking sick leave from work.



  • But there is no chance. Lavrov has done nothing but talk complete and utter shit from day one. It’s his job as Putin’s lap dog. To create sound bites that Russian supporters can latch on to.

    He knows he’s talking pure shit, everyone with an actual brain knows he is. He doesn’t care that the world laughs at him when he moves his mouth. Because that’s not who he’s speaking to.

    He’s speaking to the Tucker Carlson/Fox News/GB News/other nation’s equivalent type troglodytes who think that Russia are doing the right thing and blah blah blah.

    It’s all propaganda.

    Imagine if Goebbels told you, as a Jew that if you wanted your kids back all you had to do was travel to Berlin. Pinky promise! Of course you wouldn’t even give it a second to consider. You would know it was complete bullshit.






  • fluke@lemmy.worldtoAutism@lemmy.worldOn Self-Diagnosis
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    I’m currently not sure how I feel about a proper official diagnosis at this stage. With the stigma around mental health illnesses 8 worry it’ll just be used against me. My journey with this is still very young (read: days) so a lot of stuff I’m finding out quite fresh and this particular nugget of info was as soon as this very morning.

    There are other routes you can go through such as charities, the main one being ‘Right to Choose’ who support you with how to approach your GP, templates for letters, what to say to the various people you need to speak to and such. They also act as a tool for you to find support groups, specialists etc etc.

    Sounds amazing, right? Hell yeah. Except they’re so utterly overflowing they’ve been closed to new referrals/applicants since the end of August.

    2 weeks too late. Honestly, man. You can’t make this stuff up.



  • fluke@lemmy.worldtoAutism@lemmy.worldOn Self-Diagnosis
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    I think that the biggest issue is that in many places (the UK is a personal example), the services are so utterly over stretched and overflowing capacity that there is literal years long waiting lists in some parts of the country.

    In York area, unless you become a priority case due to being a risk of self/other harm then they have a waiting list of over 4000 people, with the capacity to only process 160ish per year. I’ll let you figure out that maths by yourself. It’s fucking hopeless. So with an official diagnosis effectively impossible to self ‘diagnose’ is your only option and you have to hope that the people around you are supportive enough to trust you and help regardless.

    Not to mention the difficulty in even getting a referral to an assessment for the diagnosis. The steps in place are practically brick walls to us with the requirements needed to fulfill. You need to get an appointment with your GP (good luck since it’s not an emergency), then you need to hope they have some understanding/experience enough to identify if you would be suitable for a referral, then you need to convince them you need a referral, then you have to wait for the specialist to pick you up and be put on the wait list, blah blah blah.

    Why go through all that energy when you can just ‘diagnose’ yourself and carry on with struggling the way you always have. After all, as long as you keep your routine it’ll be fine…right?

    Except it fucking isn’t, but what other choice is there?


  • As an adult who has very, very recently come to realise that they’re very likely autistic, this really hit me hard.

    I constantly thought about whether I do love or even can. Because most of the time I just felt nothing. I knew I wanted to be with my partner, but I could never understand why because I rarely felt anything. I’d cling to the rare moments where I would feel it and constantly remind myself of that when it got hard.

    There had to be a reason why I physically couldn’t leave despite all the times we would have a huge row and she’d knee jerk and tell me (it was obviously not something she meant, but that’s not how people like us think).

    My emotions are generally on or off. And normally they’re just off.

    But reading this has helped me understand how I show my love and it’s such a wave of relief to know that I do actually love, and care. It was such an intensely overwhelming wave that saw me start sobbing my eyes out. A 32 year old man.

    My son and partner, for example l, are the only two people I frequently ‘info dump’ on. When we do that parallel play thing I feel so comfortable and relaxed. I worry sometimes if my partner feels awkward that I’m ignoring her or whatever, but I just don’t.

    I realised that my nagging at her to do simple things for herself isnt ‘nagging’ but me expressing my feelings.

    And the amount of times I hold back on wanting to penguin pebble when I see something because I think she’ll find it stupid or I can’t afford it is fairly common.

    Although all that said, I dunno about the pressure thing. I’ve never really liked it, but I do know that when I’m shutting down or in a meltdown or having sleep paralysis I’m desperate for a hug/squeeze. So I guess it’s probably related.


  • About 2 weeks ago I saw something that made it twig for myself. It was a random Orion Kelly video about the biggest signs of autism in adults and I found myself stunned that I hit every point but one.

    Initially I was like you. Confused on how to feel. ‘Autism’ for me has always been a loaded word and came with particular connotations.

    But this last week, especially, has certainly softened those feelings. I’m still not happy with applying the word to myself. It feels awkward and an excuse, and coming from 32 years of being fearsomely independent (probably because I’m on the spectrum) and a strong believer in people being in control and responsible of their own actions it’s still a tough pill.

    Overall I think ruminating has been good for me. Keep researching it, reading/listening to other autistic people’s stories and experiences and start making a list of the traits that you identify with. It’s helped me have something that I can share with my partner, and it’s helped me realise things like what my stims are etc.





  • Seems like the only way Russia will actually pay for the damages if they think they’ll be keeping it.

    It would be quite the win if Ukraine manage to take the territory back even partially rebuilt. We know that Ukraine have a policy of avoiding costly difficult offensive operations into obvious hard points and cities (selecting to go around instead). I imagine, all going well, if they were to find themselves in a position to liberate the Azov coast then they would try and set the conditions for a Kherson style Russian ‘nope’ retreat to avoid an encirclement.