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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • Here’s why it’s bullshit: it still has Teflon (or whatever). You still can’t use metal utensils, because goodbye nonstick layer. You still can’t get it searingly hot. The uneven surface could make cleaning more complicated. Any Teflon-like nonstick will accumulate wear and tear and thermal expansion stress until it cracks, peels or stops being nonstick, all of which are good reasons to throw it away for ergonomic and (probably) health reasons. Being surrounded by stainless or whatever is going to change none of that.

    I would suggest just getting one of each “major kind of pan” - nonstick and either cast iron or stainless will let you do most things. Getting all three doesn’t need to break the bank either. Then you can save the nonstick for the stuff that really needs it, give everything else the heat and surface it deserves.



  • To be fair, back in the day you could get better results by relying on Google with site:foobar and the Boolean/“power user” stuff. A lot of built-in search boxes on sites were a bit dodgy, or at least less flexible than AND/OR/NOT and other “power user tricks”.

    Of course, these days those seem to be ignored wholesale and even “verbatim quotes” are an utter crapshoot, this was back when Google didn’t fucking blow.







  • amio@kbin.socialtoAutism@lemmy.worldBeing 'to negative'
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    Technically true, which is the most generous I could possibly be. It is not good advice. Telling someone to live more brightly is, begging your pardon, freaking useless.

    Edit: to be clear, a lot of the rest of your advice isn’t bad or anything. I just really hate this particular phrasing. It will not help, I guarantee it.



  • amio@kbin.socialtoAutism@lemmy.worldBeing 'to negative'
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    Been there, sort of. Lifelong depression does tend to make you “negative” and apparently some people hate that. NTs are not necessarily genius communicators who’ve worked at it a lot, it’s just that most people per definition tend to communicate their preferred/“natural” way. This means that whatever is pissing them off is a) not necessarily wrong, b) not necessarily what/why they think it is, and c) something you’ll likely have to work at whether you’re “in the wrong” or not.

    Kinda depressing, eh?

    Unfortunately, sometimes negativity is contagious - sharing something negative with someone is likely to worsen their mood. I won’t conjecture why that is - I can only really say that whenever people dump long lists of everything wrong with the world on me, I rarely feel great about it afterwards. Negativity is often warranted, usually realistic, sometimes funny in specific ways etc., but mostly it is still just negativity.

    Try and be mindful about this: what are you communicating? Is the content or tone negative? Did you get onto a negative track from something more positive? It is not easy, but you could unironically put up a visible reminder. Don’t overdo the self-censoring either, though, that’s also not healthy.

    Also, are you taking up a lot of space in the conversation relative to others? This can add some friction too if the disparity is big enough. I have been both the loud person (usually from boredom) and the person getting annoyed at someone individually being like 50% of a chat. One man’s dead chat is a reasonable level of activity for another, after all.

    (All the above is personal experience - reasonably sure the buzzkill stuff is an actual thing but I wasn’t able to find a citation or anything.)