My husband and I went to Noord Holland in the Netherlands last year. We had a room in a private house. The owner was this nice old couple. They helped us rent bikes at a local bike shop and we just went everywhere on bike. Every day an hour or two just following the coastline, nothing but the sea, the shore and the sails of the boats in the distance.

We also went to a hat museum. It was a private museum - basically an old woman who’se been collecting and making hats her entire life. A whole room full of hats from all over the world and she could tell you all about them, how they are made, the cultural signifance etc. Her husband made us tea while we sat there and listened.

I am very pissed at the assholes who directly bullied me and spent a lot of time thinking about ways to hurt them in retaliation. I didn’t mention it because they are just some monsters to me who will hopefully die the most painful deaths with untreatable diseases. Since I do not want to end up in jail, I feel like there is not much else I can do about them. Also, I had a lot of therapy and talked about the bullying. I’m at a point where I just silently wish the worst on my bullies if I happen to think about them. The difference is that Lydia was my friend for a long time so it feels differently what she did.

But I guess you’re right, she isn’t/wasn’t a good person.

Your dad and husband both sound annoying. They suggested you go swimming in your underwear, multiple times, and when you do it’s not right and your husband makes a stink about it? Either you’re relaxed about nudity (your own and others) or you aren’t, which is also fine. But running around in underwear yourself, convincing others to be in underwear and THEN shitting on them for it is extremely hypocritical.

What he says about your dad’s photos (whether it’s true or not) makes me also think that for him you being in underwear and swimming was something sexual. Typical male hypocrisy: A woman being (mostly) naked is ALWAYS sexual, a man being equally undressed isn’t, but also the woman is boring and no fun if she doesn’t do something like spontaneously undress and swim.

Personally, I would be livid if my husband thought he could tell me when and where I can be naked. And I would absolutely give him hell if he’d push me to undress and then critisize me for doing so.

So he speaks russian and a bit of English. She speaks English and a bit of Russian. Sounds to me like they could get along and teach each other. So wait, he has regular phone calls with her? So the communication is working somehow? I’m even more confused. Do they even meet in person sometimes?

From what I understand of the situation I’m not sure you could say he’s in love. He can hardly communicate and only speaks to her on the phone. Sounds to me like nothing more than a crush, they can’t even talk properly. I feel like before he talks about being in love he should meet her more often and figure out ways to communicate.

What language(s) does she speak? If it’s English, he’ll just have to learn it anyway eventually so what better motivation than to date someone who only speaks English. International relationships where the partners have different motherlanguages and different degrees of fluency in a shared language are not uncommon.

I am just very confused where the two keep meeting with him being on call with the family all the time. Are you in Uni and he’s constantly on the phone during lectures or what?

Don’t worry, they’ll have forgotten all about it by Friday.

*male anger. Angry women are still emotional and hysterical.

We need stricter social rules again in a lot of areas and children need to be brought up stricter again. Now I don’t mean we should get back to being in other people’s business in regards to what they wear or who they love. But let’s go back to shunning people for littering. Teach kids to sit still and be quiet in certain spaces like public transport or restaurants. Ostracize people who are loud and disruptive in public. Let’s just implement some stricter social rules again.