cross-posted from: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/17147012

"Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”

and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”

and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay."

-a 15yo autistic girl experiencing ABA therapy

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  • rockSlayer@lemmy.worldEnglish
    61·
    6 months ago

    This is only vaguely related, but I remember reading that anti-authoritarianism is a trait of autism. I’m an autistic anarchist, so seeing the crosspost community is fun

    • BestBouclettes@jlai.luEnglish
      221·
      6 months ago

      Yeah, I understand hierarchy but it’s only a title, you’re just a person like everyone else so fucking chill

      • HottieAutie@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPEnglish
        21·
        6 months ago

        I can understand hierarchy in systems, roles, and responsibilities. I cannot understand hierarchies in social settings. It’s not even values-related or a choice. I just don’t have the mental capacity to even see it.

    • SavvyWolf@pawb.socialEnglish
      15·
      6 months ago

      I’ve been wondering for a while now whether loyalty to a group of people is a trait that is more commonly found in non-autistic people. Would explain so much.

      • Boomkop3@reddthat.comEnglish
        2·
        6 months ago

        From personal experience I’ve noticed that autistic people tend to be more loyal. But less so to caregivers who don’t care, which is too often the case

        • SavvyWolf@pawb.socialEnglish
          3·
          6 months ago

          Yeah, I more meant that if they were a caregiver themselves then they would more likely call out bad caregivers, rather than just silently accept it because they don’t want to make waves.

          • Boomkop3@reddthat.comEnglish
            2·
            6 months ago

            I don’t know how much that is a stronger drive to do things right, and how much that because it might be reminding some of how we were treated.

            Either way you are absolutely right

      • LwL@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        6 months ago

        There was a blogpost posted to here a while ago that looked into that and seemed to find it true. The whole tone of it felt a bit masturbatory but it was still an interesting read, I’ll see if I can find it

        Edit: I failed to find it but anyway, it’s probably the case.

    • r3df0x ✡️✝☪️@7.62x54r.ruEnglish
      1·
      6 months ago

      I wonder how much of that is a reaction to not understanding rules. Since transitioning, my sister has gone into the “everyone needs to submit to God” category.

      Of course, God could be the only authority and every other authority is an idol.