Like my ex therapist. “Just make lists and read them to remember” That would involve me remembering to 1- make the list 2- read it at the right time 3- act upon it, yeah go lock with that.
- Remember to write down the tasks.
- Find a way to stay organised with a large number of tasks.
- Remember you have tasks and there is a list around here somewhere…
- I’ll check my list after I’m done with this thing…
- … you look up and the sun is set, you forgot to eat lunch.
- oh hey there’s that list on the kitchen counter!
The real issue here is the attitude of “just do X”. Like making lists works for some people with ADHD but not all of them. You have to try it to find out. As a fucking therapist you’d think they would know that
Sounds like advice. I don’t think my therapist gave me any advice unless I begged her and we did the whole CBT bit first.
If someone doesn’t follow my advice, I don’t actually care. It was cool that you called asking for it to begin with. It’s very arrogant of someone to get upset that another person didn’t take their advice. You can’t possibly know all of the underlying factors. If someone calls asking for my insight, it’s kind of an honor that they trust me that much.
I’m also the oldest of five so I field a few calls from my youngest two siblings (who are fresh new adults, 9 and 12 years younger than me) asking what to do. It’s pretty cool watching the little stinkers figure shit out.
Where it can be frustrating is when you get pressed for advice or an opinion after first saying you don’t have an opinion or trying not to commit to something knowing the person won’t like your opinion.
If I get pressed to give an answer then I’m going to sit and figure out what seems to me to be the best way to do things. That takes consideration and time, it takes energy, which I’m happy to give if I’m taken seriously. When people take what I say, and then say “ok I’m still going to do it this other way” with no rationale, then essentially they just insisted that I waste my time. Why do that? Just don’t ask me then, or take me at face value when I say I don’t know or don’t have an opinion.
I’m an introvert, interactions take a lot of energy. It’s so draining to be forced to consider something then be ignored. I don’t think I’m being arrogant, I just don’t want someone to intentionally waste my time and treat me like my opinion doesn’t matter after making me go out of my way to figure out their issue and come up with a solution.
Tf is a neurotypical? Keep hearing it around and around, but I’m too lazy to Google it.
Neurotypical is a shorthand for people who are near the average of mental configurations. Its counter is neurodivergent, which covers people with differences in mental wiring, but not so far as to be a mental illness. The term “normal”, while technically accurate, implies we are “abnormal”, a term often used in a highly derogatory way, even if it is accurate.
Most of the measures of mental state are a bell curve, centered on “normal”. If you’re centered, you’re neurotypical in that aspect. If you move away, you’re into the realm of neurodivergent. If you slide too far, the combined result can become a full blown mental illness.
How the scales line up helps define various disorders and quirks of personality. ADHD is one, Autism another, but they are not alone. Since we (vaguely, as a group) got fed up with being over medicalised, the term neurodivergent became popular. Neurotypical is its obvious counterpart.
“normal” sounds bad in the context of mental illness so there’s “neurotypical” for people without obvious mental problems
There’s also general term “neurodivergent” for people with those disorders.
Googling it would’ve been less typing…
But that deprives people of the fun of explaining things to online strangers.
It’s a bit gratifying to be able to speak on a matter where one has expertise, and I hope those that doesn’t want to “educate” just ignores questions.
I rather someone asks here than do “own research” and stumble upon autism speaks and other “information” sites
