Well, we had a kid together before this was clear to me. Fuckin whoops. He’s absolutely great, my favorite person on earth. But things started getting weird when she’d get invited to things I wasn’t, from my circle of friends. Mind you, she had 3-4 of her own friends, why was she hanging out with mine? And yeah, my circle was huge back then, but it still was odd. I still wasn’t getting mad about it or anything. Never have been. I let people make their own decisions when it comes to things like that. Well, if they’d rather hang with her then whatever, Ill watch our son and Deadpool. (He was an infant, no need to call CPS).

But anyways, she picked up all the same hobbies I had and even joined a dart league, was all in on it too. Bought several expensive sets of darts, and even got a couple of dart shirts, like uniform type stuff(yes… They exist lol) Even I never would have bought a dart shirt. That’s silly and hardcore for a bar game. They’re extra thin and allow for lots of arm movement. I always just wore my regular shirts which were just athletic shirts or golf polos mostly. So to me, that was extreme.

She started dressing less like a stoner/nerd/alt and more like a stoner/athlete like me, just … Without the will to stay in shape. She more or less quit listening to alternative, and got more into heavier music, like me. And yes, some of this is natural just by being in close proximity with another person like picking up on someone’s lingo, words that they use, etc. and some of it was with my encouragement, like becoming political. But she went from no politics at all to my “left leaning centrism” at the time. This was ~2015 and I was getting pushed further and further left. She picked it up, and we both voted for Gary Johnson that year. I’ve also been questioning religion since I was like 6-7, and was fully convinced that God doesn’t exist by 13 after spending more than a year reading the Bible. She however went to church every weekend with her grandparents until she got kicked out for having short hair and a girlfriend.

And none of this was really clear until one night I ran into her ex at a bar after we had broken up. I was with my friends and he was drinking alone but I recognized him from her FB pics and went over to chat with him and he opened my eyes to it. He had known her since high school and dated her in college and apparently he was the one that got her into smoking pot, alternative music, video games etc. he said something true that I never noticed before. She’s got no personality on her own, she takes it from whoever she’s with at the time. He said “shes like water, she takes the form of whatever vessel she’s poured into.” And it made me think. I had already noticed this stuff, I just didn’t put it all together. And obviously that’s not the worst thing in the world.

However, she started dating again within a few months of us breaking up. She started dating this super religious dude, and I started becoming concerned. Of course she immediately went back on the no God thing, and “became religious” again. Luckily he’s a great dude, but she gained a ton of weight, (he’s a… Fluffy guy.), became a “small town gal” and started dressing like a bumpkin. I was just glad he wasn’t a white supremacist or kiddy diddler given the prior information. However it was weird watching her transform so quickly right in front of me.

I want to point out that she’s not a bad person or anything. She’s actually got a good heart. That doesn’t mean that a good person can’t creep you out. And so, although this doesn’t fit well with your situation, maybe the consequences or… Results of a lopsided interest investment can give you another perspective.

There was a bit of stream of consciousness going on there, so if I skipped important details, or wasn’t clear, feel free to ask any questions. Honestly she’s the closest I’ve ever come to seeing what I understand to be a succubus in a way. But if that’s what a succubus is, it’s really not that bad, just… Strange to me. For me, if I’m going to change at all, it’s going to come from within. There is no other way for me.

Edit: it was also a little unnerving to realize that the girl I liked in the beginning, was basically this other dude that I hadn’t met at the time, only with different genetics.