He’s planning his own life, and you want to be a part of that. I think you guys just aren’t in the same place. Some people would be okay with having a long distance partner who is going to move wherever… probably mostly people in open relationships. He isn’t wrong for wanting to do what he wants, you aren’t wrong for wanting a partner nearby.
Okay, not wanting to host your boyfriend at your parent’s place is actually understandable. Why is he moving with his friend? Is he unable to afford a long distance move?
He is younger than you, and at his stage of life moving might be difficult. To me, you are coming across as needy in a situation where it sounds like he’s just getting his start in life. You also failed to mention some key details in the post which made things seem more suspicious than they are. It feels to me like you are searching for red flags.
If the relationship otherwise feels really good I don’t see this as a reason to break up, unless you really don’t want to do long distance which is understandable for anyone. But you might be better off with someone closer to your stage in life, who would be able to host you and do life planning. Based on this post alone, you don’t seem happy with the situation.
What is his apartment/home like? Idk, it is a bit odd but if you have met up at other times it’s not a red flag on its own, to me. Do you guys have tangible plans to close the distance?
Is he okay if he visits you, or doing a trip meeting up in a more interesting city halfway through?
What’s his reasoning for you not visiting?
Why is Google doing this research?!?
He clearly likes you, so if you texted back saying “sorry that was supposed to be a joke, I want to go out”, he might reciprocate. But you’ve known each other for years and haven’t met up? Doesn’t really seem like you’re all that interested in the first place, and he’s picked up on it.
Idk about politics but I know stuff about fire. Catostrophic wildfires can be prevented by making sure there isn’t lots of dead, dry wood… not lots of dead, dry grass. Prescribed fire is the big way to do this, also mowing and landscaping properly around buildings. And most wildfires do have a human-based ignition point as well.
Maybe Netanyahu should have thought about that before he funded Hamas.
Who the fuck cares if a comment is low-effort or high-effort? I don’t care about how much work someone put into a comment, I care about the ideas they are communicating with their comment.
No it’s really not, but thank you for your opinion anyway! We are both quite similar as far as introversion/extroversion go
I think you’re right, and he just keeps things more separate than most of my other friends would. Thanks for your thoughtful response.
I wouldn’t say that’s true. He’s very eloquent and speaks at length on a lot of topics, and brings up lots of talking points, questions etc. He would be able to write a similarly wordy description of a social situation if prompted to do so, he often leaves long introspective messages in group chats.
I’m not saying I’m entitled to anything, just that it’s unusual. I feel like usually my friends would invite me to join in on shared interests, like my friend and I always invite each other to our climbing groups, even if we don’t know anyone else in the group.
It’s not that much of a skill difference, we were pretty similar. And I was suggesting ranked because in this game, the ranked games have a different format which I prefer.
That is a good idea!
I just don’t want to seem needy, especially if it ends up being that he doesn’t really want to invite me to the group hang out and just does it out of obligation … probably not a good reason to avoid talking but that is what is going through my mind.
No, that’s not what is happening. Unfortunately all the answers seem to be referencing the ranked thing. But I am not good at this game, and am barely competitive just as a person in general. The ranked games in this particular game are actually different from the casual ones, and I prefer how the game is structured in ranked, but it’s not a big deal for me to play either one.
If anything, I feel like I might be too low skill for him to want to play with.
Marco has also stated that he’d like to get better at introducing friends to each other. I don’t want to push his boundaries, but isn’t it weird to specifically leave someone out of an activity? Especially when we have been friends for so long?
This isn’t really a matter of me being too serious I think, he is actually better than me at the game despite being new. He’s a much more serious gamer than me overall.
I think it’s mostly a mismatch situation here! Sad, but it’s better than a situation where you hate each other.