A friend of mine is lactose intolerant and used to eat chocolate anyway, which kind of turned her into a diarrhea time bomb. Usually at most a half hour later she would suddenly get up and run to the bathroom, anything in the way was toast.
I remember something similar happening in the US recently…
Great explanation, thanks!
I’m a somewhat feminine man myself, and man I hear where you’re coming from. And truth be told, you’ve managed to accept yourself the way you are earlier than I did. It took me a while to accept myself.
I also get the impression, though, that you have a traumatic response to the whole situation due to your upbringing. And it seems to me that that is something that you’ve accepted on the surface, but deep down, you’re still fighting with it. Which, by the way, is OK and normal. This shit takes time and work. If you have access in any way to mental healthcare, use it. You need to work through what you’ve experienced and learn how to deal with it better.
And I’m not sure I quite understood the situation completely - but if you’re still living with your parents, pull out all the stops to move out. As soon as possible. Otherwise, it will only keep dragging you down. As you’ve alluded to, despite all the shit happening today, there’s still a brighter world out there than what you’re experiencing with your family. It will be worth it, I promise.
But that requires an glance down at the taskbar and looking for the icon. If I see the minimize animation, I can jump right to the next thing. And as an added bonus (at least until Windows 11 fucked it up), I immediately get a cue as to where in the taskbar the icon is located.
To be fair, I do find animations useful. On our work computers they’ve turned off animations by default, and I keep turning them on, because I just need that visual feedback - for instance, did I minimize the window or did the program just crash and the window closed - or I misclicked and closed instead? Just a small visual cue so I know what’s going on.
That being said, iPhone (or Apple in general) animations are horrendously slow.
IANAL, but I don’t think there’s a reasonable ground for a lawsuit (although there’s nothing prevent an attempt). It’s not claiming to be TikTok, that would be a clear trademark infringement. It’s just saying it’s similar to their service, and if you want to compare it (which is allowed), you have to refer to it somehow. Similar to when people say LibreOffice is an MS office alternative - Microsoft wouldn’t have the grounds to sue there, either.
Sync is not backup
Thank you. Now can you please explain this to my IT department that thinks force syncing everything on our computers to OneDrive is a solution to our lack of backups?
“All opinions other than mine are only supported by dopamine highs” - wow, what a great new way of being condescendingly dismissive!
OP actually left the consequences of climate change open. No, it probably won’t be a Mad Max inferno. Probably not. But we also don’t know where the tipping point of the oceans is, because they are storing a shit ton of carbon. Hit that tipping point, and that carbon may well suddenly be released into the air, and then the shit hits the fan.
But even if that scenario doesn’t happen, and the world is still theoretically perfectly livable, you mentioned one of the main problems: mass migration. We already see what that’s doing today. We’re not far away from World War 3 anymore. So yes, the question is perfectly legitimate.
(And before anyone thinks it: I’m not blaming the migrants, of course they’re not at fault, they have every right to look for a better life. The people at fault are entirely different, but it doesn’t change the fact there is a causational relationship)
freshly single from a longtime toxic ex
This is really the key. Toxic relationships, romantic or otherwise, fuck you up. Badly. Really badly. You know about the tip of the iceberg. Only she knows how deep it goes, and maybe even she doesn’t know it (yet).
I won’t sit here and say that there are no feelings involved on her side. I don’t know that, and there is definitely a possibility that she has a few feelings from what you’re describing. But for her right now, she has much bigger fish to fry.
The fact that she got out of that toxic relationship is a seriously large accomplishment for her. It is insanely difficult to get out of those situations. And she will in all likelihood be feeling a whole range of emotions in waves. The one moment she’ll want to have a relationship (in general). The next moment, she’ll be wanting to explore her newfound freedom. Another moment, she’ll just be feeling really down. And quite likely, she will often be fighting with feelings of wanting that toxic relationship back, no matter how bad it was, because that’s how toxic relationships are, unfortunately. She needs to sort a hell of a lot of stuff in her head that was messed up during that course (ideally with psychological help).
This will go on for quite a while, likely years. And honestly, it would probably be in her best interest not to get into a relationship at this point. When you’re dealing with the repercussions from a situation like that, the last thing you need is something that might stress you more.
As to you? Well, there is the option that you support her getting through it, but this will only work without your goal being a relationship - and you have to be honest with yourself here. Because you will have to distance yourself. Make no mistake, there WILL be pain and suffering. And if you are too close to her emotionally or still have active feelings, it will burn you up from the inside. Shared suffering is half the suffering, but don’t underestimate what she brings to the table in that regard. So this would only be an option once your feelings for her have seriously calmed down and you’ve created enough emotional distance for you to be able to deal with this.
The other option is, of course, you distance yourself, period, or even cut off contact. I have the impression you’re clinging to hope that it might work out after all, and it will eat you alive if you don’t watch out.
So essentially, either way, you have to distance yourself. And once you’ve created enough distance and can reflect on everything in a calmer matter, you can decide which path you want to go down.
Hope this helps. You sound like a genuinely kind and loving person - qualities that make going through something like this that much more difficult. And honestly, a psychologist might not be a bad idea, either. We’re just random strangers on the internet, a psychologist will be able to help you much better.
In case anyone was thinking the same thing I was: no, it wasn’t a parasite, it was named that way due to its shape.
I literally read through the rules for the third time or something and couldn’t find “the rule”. Am I too stupid to read?
It can’t be said often enough: fuck Axel Springer.
I mean, we could say the same thing about Kent - when he’s getting pissy, it’s about ensuring the filesystem is bulletproof and no one loses data.
Thing is, we’re not talking about getting pissy. We’re talking about getting downright insulting and borderline abusive. Linus got suspended from his own goddamn Kernel for his behavior. Let that sink in for a moment.
And I honestly believe that’s where part of the problem comes from. Kent looks up to Linus in a way, and sees himself as entitled to mimicking Linus’s bad behavior, which turns into a clusterfuck. Linux is still a good kernel despite Linus’s behavior, and bcachefs seems to be pretty good from a technical standpoint despite Kent’s behavior (even the kernel maintainers Kent pissed off admit it). They both shouldn’t be behaving that way, period. But both are very talented from a technical standpoint, which makes policing their behavior that much harder.
Ideally, yes, someone else would take over communication with Linus, but my hope isn’t particularly high at the moment. I wish Kent would calm down (further) and play by the rules more (even though he’s far from the only one who has broken those rules), and I wish Linus would learn to take it as much as he dishes it out.
And that makes it such a shame: bcachefs would be great to have in the kernel from a technical standpoint. It’s the personal conflicts that are really messing things up at the moment.
The point of these next gen file systems aren’t raw performance, they are reliability, performance for specific cases, and reduced data usage. For example:
Copy on Write means it’s very performant to create snapshots
incremental backups are much quicker
checksumming means the filesystem directly and reliably detects data corruption
built-in support for raid means a simplified setup and integration of scrubbing features into the filesystem, which can then take advantage of checksumming etc.
deduplication can automatically recognize duplicated data and as such reduce data use
These are things that tend to reduce performance, not increase it. Which is why, when performance on these filesystems stays the same or even increases, that’s a major accomplishment.
It’s not quite as one sided as you put it, either. The most recent last minute feature was pushed for rc3, and wasn’t big filled. It was also a feature that enhanced stability, which is the reason Kent submitted it there. I’m not saying he’s right, but it’s important context here. And he’s far from the only one who has done this. Someone recently added new hardware support in rc7.
Also, he has improved somewhat. Arguably not as much as he should, but things aren’t as bad as they originally were.
And as to the attitude - he’s in good company, honestly. Especially in regard to Linus, them judging Kent is like a group of lepers judging a beauty contest. That’s the point this article makes very well.
None of this excuses his behaviour, but it is important to put it into context.
Good to know… Although hitting enter twice or adding two spaces makes me feel like a boomer. Oh well
Oh god, reminds me of the time I was with that same friend at a Mexican restaurant. They had decorative chilis on the plate, which we were explicitly warned not to eat. I carefully ate a bit of one of them. I grew up with hot food. She didn’t. She looked at me casually munching on one of the Chilis and thought, “doesn’t seem that bad”. Long story short, I ended up running to the kitchen asking for a glass of lactose-free milk, and of course they only had normal milk. Thank god there was no accident in the car on the way back.