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  • You already have a bunch of discussion on how “k” can seem dismissive as it’s the lowest effort affirmative reply possible, but I’d add that “K.” can seem worse, because it’s the same message with more effort - if everyone has understood/assumed that “k” is the lowest effort/energy communication, capitalizing and punctuating it indicates that you do have the extra energy, you just choose to spend that energy on emphasizing the dismissive response, rather than on using a different one. It has the same connotations, but more emphatically and more intentionally (or, that’s how it comes across).

    I also think in general taking the effort to use correct punctuation and grammar seems more formal, less natural, and hence more emotionally distant. It can also seem more emphatic or assertive, like by using more correct grammar/punctuation than everyone else, you’re positioning yourself as generally more “correct” than they are. The combination of emotional distance and implicit high ground can come across as a bit hostile, or at least standoffish.

    The reverse could also be true - if you were in a culture or context where everyone else was using correct grammar and punctuation and you weren’t, it could come across as implying that they’re not worth caring about. For example, in work communications, or maybe when talking to members of an older generation or people from a country that uses more formal language.

    In general, probably the smoothest approach would be to observe how others in a given circle communicate, and try to match their level of formality. I guess this is basically masking. If you’d rather not change how you communicate to fit in, you could explicitly discuss this with people - essentially say, “hey, I’m aware that my natural style is different from yours, and I want to be clear that this isn’t indicative of my emotional state, or attitude to you, or any intended tone, this is just my natural baseline”.

    At the end of the day the options will always be a) mask, b) be awkwardly explicit, or c) get used to being misunderstood.

    … this was really meant to be a quick addition about the difference between “k” and “K.” but sometimes my comments turn into essays for no good reason. Hope something in here was useful anyway.



  • “Inconvenience” would be the verb for causing an inconvenience. So in the sentence you’re going for, “inconvene” would have to be replaced with the passive “be inconvenienced” (“we’ve gotta be inconvenienced and grovel to google a bit”). I don’t believe we have a separate word for “endure an inconvenience”, although it seems like the kind of thing some languages might have a single word for. Stylistically I’d probably restructure the sentence to “we’ve gotta put up with the inconvenience” rather than just using the passive verb, but yeah.

    I think you’d most often see this verb in the stock phrase “Sorry to inconvenience you”.




  • Worldbuilding (I had reason to export my onenote worldbuilding notes to a pdf recently, turns out it’s over 600 pages)

    Datahoarding, specifically ebooks (have over 34,000, fiction and non-fiction, classified into folders and mostly individually selected on the basis of quality although there are a couple of pre-built collections integrated in there too - nowhere near satisfied with my collection as even if you only want the best examples of something, every fictional genre or nonfictional field has subfields and subsubfields). But also to some extent emulatable games and TV shows. TV shows less so (would be happy with only a few dozen complete series, am probably getting close to “complete” to my satisfaction), but I guess my game collection is pretty big - I think I have most games up until about 1994, plus hundreds after that.

    I’m currently in the process of getting an official diagnosis, which is why I have some somewhat prepared answers on the intensity level of my interests.


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    I understood the terminology but after googling still don’t get the meme. The only results I can find are about how paracetamol during pregnancy may increase likelihood of autism - nothing about how it affects autistic people differently than neurotypicals. Hopefully OP can clarify, because I’d love to learn more.





  • Talking to people and examining writing will usually drop references to a couple of other places to explore, or to unanswered questions that are worth looking into. Even if they seem minor, these almost inevitably lead to putting together pieces of the larger story, regardless of which pieces you start with. I don’t specifically remember what whistling guy talks about, but it sounds like that’s the only potential lead you’ve found so far. It’s certainly possible to make progress without ever talking to him, via all kinds of things that can be independently stumbled on, but if you haven’t found anything else I bet revisiting his dialogue will give you an idea on where to search next.

    (Okay, I checked the wiki and can confirm that, while Esker is not the richest source of new options in the game, his dialogue does include instructions that lead to new threads for you to pull on)