Honestly, it sounds like you have checked out of the relationship.

If you actually want to rebuild, I strongly recommend finding a counsellor who works for both of you and can help you establish productive communication.

It’s cliche, but right now you are ‘Me’ focused. You need to be ‘We’ focused.

There’s a difference between defending oneself and engaging in collective punishment and genocide. I am Jewish and the descendent of holocaust survivors. Not in my name.

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This reads like a train wreck start to finish.

I agree - and for better or worse, lemmy.ml is likely to be many users first experience with lemmy. As a new user myself, I subbed to a bunch of communities on lemmy.ml because it’s what I interpreted as being the ‘core’ of lemmy. Ambiguous rules - especially ones resulting in bans for discussing articles from high quality news sources - is problematic and likely to turn some people off. This is particularly an issue when lemmy is building towards critical mass.

One of the principal complaints about reddit is power tripping mods - and it’s distressing to see that seemingly built into the DNA of lemmy.

The flip side of course is that this has sort of opened my eyes to the power of lemmy and the fediverse.