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  • He is dealing with dementia, and has become increasingly vulgar and outspoken, and even made some vastly inappropriate remarks about his wife & my other neighbor while my child was right there.

    His wife is tired. I know this. Christ, I would be, too. He was kind of insufferable even before the dementia got bad (think him talking about his shitty political views), but, god… I am so tired of babysitting him while I try to unwind in my own yard. He’ll talk over the fence or simply waltz past it and follow me around while I try to do stuff or as I’m trying to talk to my kid.

    That’s behavior his wife is clearly ignoring, and that’s what I’m suggesting he turn around on her. OP has no obligation to this man and the woman who does clearly is failing at hers. Is it sad what’s happening to these people? Yes. That doesn’t make it OP’s problem to deal with. Likewise, dementia patients often become violent and it sounds like this is an already angry man, why should OP put himself or his family in the middle of it? How will that end well for them?

    I’ll also point out I had one of the kinder solutions posted in this thread between “ignore him”, “build a big ass fence”, “fake an infectious disease”, and “cartoon violence”. I made a kind suggestion and offered a slightly less kind way to use it to make this less of a problem for OP


  • Something I’d suggest looking into is gentle redirection for dementia patients. Dementia patients respond very poorly to “no”, “you’re wrong”, “that doesn’t exist anymore” type statements. Instead there are techniques where you agree with them, make positive suggestions, and agree with their nonsense to get them to do what you want

    For example: when a dementia patient starts trying to walk to the grocery store instead of saying “you can’t walk to the grocery store, it’s 15 miles away and you shamble like a zombie” you’d say “Oh you know what, I need something from the grocery store too! How about I go with you?” Then after they likely agree you say “Oh shoot, I forgot I’m in the middle of cooking something. Can you go back inside and I’ll come back in an hour to go with you?” They forget you said that, rinse and repeat

    So for this guy as he’s shouting his nonsense, don’t necessarily agree, but say things like “wow, I didn’t know about that”, “I heard that’s a serious problem.” Then say “I actually heard something crazier than what he said, why don’t you go look into that and tell me what you think later” or if you want to turn it around on his wife you can say that she told you things and that he should go ask her for more information






  • As a Scrum Master myself this isn’t a question anyone outside of your work flow can answer. I’ve worked at organizations where we expected people to complete 8 points of work per sprint, and some where we expected people to do 30. Additionally, from a pure philosophy stand point, points measure complexity/uncertainty not time needed to complete the task. As such, you should be both reducing the average number of points per feature and increasing your average velocity over time.

    OK, semantics aside, here’s some useful advice: jira has free accounts for individuals (check with their licenses before you sell any work) and is obviously built for software development. You can also install addons like Clone Plus that will let you clone epics and the stories within them. I’d recommend making a shell epic that contains the maximum amount of work a project would take, then appropriately size, sequence, and relate all stories to each other. After you have that template epic you can clone it and all the relevant stories underneath, then using Jira dashboards put them in the order they need to be done and use your estimated weekly velocity to see what you can do. Then you’ll have a list of tasks, how many points they total, and a rough timeline of story delivery