Roleplaying whiskey. Its just a bottle of whiskey that we all drink when we play

I know I am just guessing about it being about kink but it feels that way based on how people interact with it. The Trad Wife influencers has too much sexualized content currently to be about biblical values.

Exactly its all about consent. There is nothing wrong with 24/7 D/s relationships but they are really uncommon. Most people who fantasize about them don’t even want them. Its Olympic level stuff so you got to be on the top of your game in every aspect. Not for everone

A different short haircut isn’t gender euphoria. I think you are reaching since that scares you.

I have two main thoughts on this first is that most of the people really into this are just in denial about their sexual submissive tendencies. They want to be dominated in bed and / or bossed around since it turns them on. They don’t want to admit this since that would be against what “good girls want” so they decide its easier to adopt this crazy ideology instead. This of course backfires since the only men who are interested in this are abuses assholes. Everyone else would self select out and would rather have their spouse be equal outside the bedroom. So of course they are miserable since only assholes would sign up for this. A feminist man would happily dominate her as an equal. Its about power over vs power with.

As mentioned below it seems likely this is caused by the depression. It seems like both are you are overwhelmed and under intense pressure her especially. Its time for both of you to prioritize your mental health. Go to therapy (couples or individual), get time away from the kids together and / or apart so that you can do something you enjoy. Neither of you can be your best for the rest of the family without taking some time or energy to help yourself. Take on some of the burden so your wife can have some time off from the kids. She should do the same for you. Ask for help so someone else watches the kids and relax together.

When talking about child rearing there are some gendered expectations. Whether there should be is a different story but currently there are. But besides that gender is mostly irrelevant in these stories but can be important. Age is generally more important for these kind of advice.

If you are having doubts about marriage be careful about having kids right away. Once you have kids you are locked with that person forever. If they aren’t fully pulling their weight now having kids won’t make that any easier. These are serious issues that need to be considered before getting married and having kids. Wedding and then having children is a huge financial, mental and physical burden.

How does the work load work currently for wedding planning? How about the workload for pregnancy and child rearing? Have you talked about it or are you assuming it based on gender roles? These are all important decisions to make together as a team. If they can’t finish school or even work its difficult to see them doing their fair share or if they aren’t working doing more than their fair share of domestic labor. (Which is real difficult labor and should be counted as such as a couple)

Do you currently have kids together? What is the timeline for these things? Its a lot of time to have two people living off of a single income especially if you two aren’t married yet

It takes some effort to make everything simpler in the long run. We are currently working really hard to get each small section of our yard to be low maintenance. Planting perennials, mowing leaves where they land and piling up leaves to decompose over the winter. Our “lawn” is looking more and more like a meadow with clover, some grasses, random flowering weeds. All it takes is some clover seed, to stop fertilizing and to not use herbicides.

South St. Paul also has an Air Force base in it. Which is also on that list

Makes sense. I noticed it was bad because it was obviously election related and completely off topic for the subreddit. So it went past the high quality into the simple and bad

I remember when I first started noticing bots bad was in 2016. They have been there for a while now. It’s advertisers turn now though. It’s at the end stages

Don’t leave it high and dry. It wants to be low and wet

I tried to get LLMs to write a cover letter for me. It could either lie about my credentials to match the job or write a generic one about my credentials. They are so dumb. This should be useful for us workers but won’t get better since it doesn’t help businesses.

To be honest the best use case for Gen-AI is people using Gen AI to generate professional messages from simple sentences and the recipient to use Gen-AI to translate it back. I can’t wait for all my interactions to be made for me. It’s going to be terrible

Its nice to have something that takes a few years to finish and becoming fully beautiful but its hard to wait. Its been a long winter

I am trying to temper my expectations because I know it might take a while. I’m just so excited. We’re pulling up some garden barrier this spring and going to be putting down wild ginger. I want to put down tons of types to see what comes up. I know there are tons of beautiful ones that take multiple years to germinate.

I think most natives need shade under trees so they get seasonal sun in the spring. Also I think leaf litter is important. But I’m not sure since they are still in seed

As a general rule if it smells minty it’s pretty good to eat in small quantities. Teas are the preferred medium