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  • I work IT for my day job managing a datacenter and cloud infrastructure.

    I host mostly Plex, home assistant, and immich. Immich has its data backed up, I don’t care about Plex data. If it all dies, so be it.

    I have a server coloed that houses some websites and email, plus some random other things I’ve setup and tested. It’s got backups, and downtime is fine.

    If my self hosted stuff dies, it doesn’t matter. Nothing in my life ultimately relies on it.



  • I’ve had those depressive thoughts, I’ve fought self harm and depression. I have mostly gotten past it and during the period, I don’t think I ever saw light at the end of the tunnel.

    I’m glad she is able to get the relief she needs. I couldn’t imagine putting someone through the turmoil that I had during my lowest points. It’s sad, but it’s okay for things to be sad in life. I’m glad she is able to have frank discussions on her desires and her wellbeing. It’s going to be hard for her partner, friends, and family, but it would be so much worse and so traumatic if she didn’t have help or had to hide the desires until she took her own life regardless of the laws.


  • There is a reg key to add that disables bing search.

    What I fucking hate, is that I exclusively use the start menu to start apps I’ve installed, but typing in the name of an app doesn’t show the installed app at all, just fucking ads. They literally took away the only functionality of the start menu unless I do a very intuitive method of reverting it.



  • I wouldn’t, you’ll lose a lot not having it manage the disks such as using dissimilar disks for the array and having it spin down unused disks. You might be able to pass disks through so the unraid VM can manage them directly, but it might be harder than I’d personally want to deal with.

    If you aren’t running VMs much. Truenas scale I believe can do docker well. I’ve seen a lot of people put that in a VM on proxmox with disks passed through to be used as the NAS portion.


  • Depression is a major issue that your wife will need to address. The haircut is probably just how it’s physically manifesting.

    This is going to be a challenge in your relationship, but get over the hair and focus on your wife’s mental health. Be there to support her and try to get to the root of the depression. That probably means therapy and possibly medication. You’ll probably want to also get couples therapy to help explore new ways that you and your wife can work together and support each other.

    You might be having issues feeling attraction because her personality is changing from her depression. It’s not just the hair, that’s just what you’re able to see and pinpoint.

    This is your opportunity to step up and take care of your wife when she needs it.


  • Is it something you can overcome? Everyone’s body is different and that’s okay. People have different preferences and incompatibilities, but is it something to break up over?

    People are making fun of you, but sexual incompatibilities are a death sentence for a relationship. If you two aren’t able to have satisfying sex for the both of you, it’s not going to work out and dragging it out will make it worse.







  • I’m going to be falling into a stepfather role this summer when my girlfriend and her daughter moves in. We’ve already kind of talked about marriage.

    I’m nervous as all hell, but the girlfriend says I’m doing great so far. Her daughter loves me and I try to handle her by leading her rather than telling her. If she doesn’t want to take a nap, well then I guess it’s time for me to take a nap and she’ll follow. When she doesn’t want to go to bed, then I’ll play like I’m going to lay down and sleep in her bed and she’ll kick me out because it’s hers.

    She’s a smart cookie, and I’m excited for it all. I’m excited to take her to extracurriculars and chaperone field trips. I’m scared shitless. But excited.


  • Plex data, pi hole, and home assistant don’t contain anything meaningful. No credentials are stored in a form that can be reused.

    The most sensitive is immich, which I’m more concerned about backups than I am someone might steal my nudes. Their online anyway.

    Email is hosted off-site and I still have physical files for a lot of my documents. If someone stole hdds out of my server, they’d get a lot of Linux isos, pictures of cars, porn, tons of versioned software and games installers, etc.

    Maybe my definition of sensitive is different than yours though.



  • brygphilomena@lemmy.worldtoMildly Infuriating@lemmy.worldAh, reddit
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    3 months ago

    Outside of a web scraper, how sure are we that this poisons reddits actual data being sold to ai companies? It seems trivial for them to have an original comment field in the database that’s invisible to users or just use backed up data. Or even an anonymized copy of all all original comments not linked to any account that is solely for AI training.