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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • Back when I took my Anthropology class, one of the things we covered (briefly) was different styles of communicating and how the unrecognized differences between those styles causes stress and frustration between different styles. My professor said the classic example were the stereotypical differences between men and women in American culture, as evidenced in the classic complaints “my husband never listens to me!” and “my wife is always changing her mind!”

    There are people who communicate that they’re listening: they nod their head, they said “uhm-hmm”, make eye contact, etc. And there are people who … don’t. When a person who does this style of communication doesn’t get that feedback, they feel unheard and get frustrated. And when a person who doesn’t do that style of feedback receives that feedback, they think the other person is agreeing with them, so they’re blindsided and frustrated when the other person ‘changes their mind’.

    I’d suggest explaining this communication difference style to your sibling, because while it’s a frustrating thing to your family right now, I’ve no doubt that your sibling finds (or will find) being on the other side of the divide just as frustrating.

    I’d also explain that for some people, making or maintaining eye contact can be difficult, but you can get away with looking at people’s chins or ears; and if even that’s difficult, that’s fine, but then other means of communicating that you’re listening (nodding, going “uhn-hunh” or whatever) becomes even more important.


  • “I know there’s a ton of skepticism about Meta entering the fediverse — it’s completely understandable,” Cottle says. “I do want to kind of make a plea that I think everyone on the team has really good intentions. We really want to be a good member of the community and give people the ability to experience what the fediverse is.”

    If I wanted Facebook shitposts and forwards from KlanMa, I’d’ve joined Facebook. And I don’t believe Meta has good intentions, I believe they want to overwhelm the fediverse, and I believe they want to make money. Middle-manager Cottle and their team may have good intentions, but corporate certainly doesn’t, and I certainly don’t trust their users.










  • Of course they fucking are. They’ve repeatedly forced their own entrance into Al Aqsa, and denied Muslim access to it, in the past. In fact, the last time I heard of Al Aqsa violations was during Sukkot last fall, when hundreds of Israeli settlers - [which I suppose we should really start calling “violent illegal immigrants”] repeatedly stormed the third-holiest site in Islam, during the week-long Jewish festival, and were protected by Israeli forces.

    Fuck Israel, and fuck their genocide.