It’s a fun game when you can play it the way you enjoy. The biggest issue I see is when people try and go beyond (read higher keys or raid difficulty) what they’re willing to put in the effort for. When the skill required doesn’t match the skill someone has it becomes toxic, sometimes it’s warranted.
Not saying people never should push themselves a key higher or a boss further and learn along the way. That’s a great thing. But you don’t try and hit a 90mph fastball before you can hit one off a tee.
Good luck in the search. As odd as it sounds I’d look at guilds that advertise as lgbtq friendly. They’re always good people and chill and accepting whether it’s your skill or something else.
If all else fails there is a discord that I’m sure someone knows the name of that’s a place for non toxic keys where some people try and teach and others learn or just play with like minded people. Hopefully someone can comment the link or name
This sounds like a fun project to be honest. Are there any risks involved by getting bad content through federation that’s out of your control?
Just a week or so ago I read an article about a guy running a tor exit node personally and being held responsible for the traffic