Thank you for reminding me to call me out on my own bullshit :D

Fair enough I see this conversation is centered around first impressions and dating, but in a more general context it worries me. I see polarization in general as a net harm, because it divides us as people. Creates isolated points of view, otherizing, makes more people comfortable with perpetrating violence against the other because they are ignoring the other’s humanity. I’m not equivocating, tolerance for intolerant opinions is not acceptable, but people can be ignorant for one reason or another, it doesn’t make them evil.

Maybe I’m just in an echo chamber here and that’s why my dissenting opinion is getting so much backlash, but I’ll always advocate for nuance. I’ve met many with rather differing opinions, opinions which I’m categorically opposed to, but further conversation has revealed these people to be good on the whole. And non-violent to boot. We grew and understood each other from a conversation. I see so much bandwagoning on the Internet and all I want is for people to think a little more deeply about it. I get very emotional seeing people go, “Yeah! Fuck them for having that thought!” Because it reflects back at me a fear of being misunderstood, but I choose to speak up in hopes that it will bring about a more rational conversation.

By all means if your gut tells you run, run. All I’m saying is that simply holding a single, opinion is not nearly enough information. What scares me to begin with is that ideas are so polarizing that it turns off our ability to think. Not everyone who holds an opinion is polarized though, some people may be on the fence and that may show in their attitude. A better metric for measuring someone’s moral compass would be how they treat waiters or waitresses or how they respond to animals.

And that’s jumping to conclusions, why would having an interest in a podcast automatically make one make you believe that the other thinks of you as lesser. Adults should have adult conversations with each other.

It’s an interesting study and I understand why people would feel that way, the only thing that rubs me the wrong way about these things is the human tendency to paint someone in a totally negative light once they see the “red flag.” I feel the comments are evidence to that fact. If you know someone who hold offensive opinions you should actually ask them why they hold that opinion. People are enormously complex and their personalities or even morals cannot be boiled down to a small handful of extremely polarizing opinions.

I want to thank you for providing this source. It’s given me more to think about. While the information provided doesn’t provide and definitive answer for my case. (How could it?) It does shine a light on issues that I personally experience. While I don’t fully relate to symptoms like, poor impulse control and I don’t fail to organize my day-to-day, what does stand out is the “persistence toward the future” as he points out early in the video. I have started many personal projects: I have bought a guitar because I want to perform music. I buy notebooks with the intention of writing a story. I bought expensive microphones with the plan to work on a YouTube channel. I have purchased courses for coding to start a fresh career. I have not achieved a large goal in anything like what I have just mentioned, not since obtaining my Bachelor’s degree. I struggle with delayed gratification. This may or may not be ADHD or it could be another disorder.

Thank you again, it gives me s direction for seeking healing.

You know I’ve not been diagnosed but I relate to practically every post in this community and now it makes me wonder. No insurance to see a professional about it though.