Hallo,

Eine Frage aus eigenem Interesse. Hast du eine Idee/Erfahrung, wo man in Hamburg neurodivergente Menschen treffen und kennenlernen kann? Gibt es eine Vernetzung oder explizite Kreise (auch z.B. Telegram-Gruppen)? Ich bin neu in der Stadt und habe kaum Anknüpfungspunkte. Bin selber längst erwachsen, selbst-erkannt neurodivergent ohne Diagnose aber mit üblichen sekundären Problemen und Maskieren-bis-zum-Gehtnichtmehr; suche weniger nach einem klinischen (“gestörten”) Zugang und mehr nach einem kreativen – Störungen vergehen Stärken gewinnen Kraft wenn inspirierende Gesellschaft vorhanden ist.

Alles Gute und vielleicht bis bald!

Shortened translation: I’m asking OP for possible ND networking and groups in Hamburg in an attempt to get some foothold through possibly inspiring and understanding circles, as i have recently moved to the city.

The TOS are unambiguous concerning the meaning of the term “website”.

This Terms of Service applies to your access to and active use of <www.lemmy.world> (“we,”“us,” “our,” “the website,” “Lemmy.World,” or “LW”). ​

So this is used in the common sense of “data coherently served under one domain/subdomain name which is intended to be displayed by web browsers”. It totally doesn’t concern someone who interacts with content originally posted on lemmy.world from a different federated server (or a lemmy client? idk if the API would run on the “www” subdomain but doubt it). They are even somewhat overspecific with the “www”. Not even the web interface runs on a “www” subdomain which means that no-one ever interacts with such a website anyway.

So in order to be correct your job would be to ask anyone with a lemmy.world account who states they are younger than 18, if they are posting through the www interface … 🤷
I just checked where the images are coming from, and nope they are coming not from www.lemmy.world but from lemmy.world/pictrs/.

In other words, you could totally be autistic and explain to them that those TOS hardly apply to anyone within a federated/website-independent system and therefore are hardly enforcible and are reasonably bullshit may need a re-work.

Thanks for sharing this!
I’m thinking this must be one of the defining characteristics that is shared by most ND people. It’s not new to me and my self-experience but finally there i have someone who put it in clear words, and it explains a lot about ND social functioning.
Also read that “Grand Emotions” article which is being linked to in the article, which has the underlying reason (“truth” and such as primary(!) emotions that’s an interesting take).
I can use this well for explaining what it means, “a fundamental difference not a disability in understanding”.

Edit … And also there’s some light on my confusion with the meaning of the word community. For me it would mean much more than “grouping of people with similar interest” but more like “communal”. Maybe i shouldn’t call the thing i want to find/co-op a “neurodiverse community” at all.

You are damn right when you are frustrated, and you are damn right in expressing that.

I am sad and embarassed (right word?) about all the unempathic comments you are being met with.(*) I’d say ignore them if you can – literally put them on your ignore list if you wish, and take them perhaps as your involuntary helpers who demonstrate what you are usually met with (if this is the case). So that this has a purpose and doesn’t hurt you …

Like someone else commented, you probably do not want such people to be your “friends” – they would only be friends with that mask you present to them in order to appease. Your frustrated/lonely expression is a mask, too. But that one they don’t like and why you wear it doesn’t interest them.

Kick that idea that you are disabled (i know, i know, but try to push it away) and it will help you to relax (that’s important). The more we train a specific thought pattern, the more that will become our only reality.

Being on your own, or being in the position of the quiet observer for the time being could actually be a good thing to have, as it will give you inner and outer room to move (away from the rigid/unrelaxed idea which makes it seem a burden). Look for such people whose presence you would enjoy. That is, such people whith whom you would resonate, naturally. Those might be the ones who are able to observe beyond the mask and those who play alone. They might not be the most relaxed ones, initially.

The good fruit are rare and you are young. I hope this resonates or is at least a lottle comforting. From someone who had many developments happen ten years late.
[leaving that typo as-is because i like that word … a lottle]

(*) I just held myself back from answering each of those comments with “this hurts” … but it would have me spam the comment tree. Leaving it up to you.

Uh this hurts. Please remember where we are posting here and that people might have subtle but very relevant differences in the way they empathise and communicate. Thank you.

If you want people to understand you then you have to express the you. That’s what OP does. Expressing their discomfort so that others can know about it. If others don’t feel comfortable around someone who is not comfortable with them in the first place, then that’s exactly what they should feel. Discomfort. … OP seems to not yet know that the people they are looking fore will be the ones who actually understand such a mode of empathic communication, and know how to be comforting.

You are damn right when you are frustrated, and you are damn right in expressing that. [moved the rest of this comment to the top level]

Well it looks like this rather belongs to the DM session you started. But perhaps make a separate post, asking everyone?

“I’m doing good!” – in order to return some og the confusion. 😁

https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy-ui/issues/1048
In a nutshell, many people are bringing in more or less useful comments although it has already been suggested how this could work; the changes required would touch some core functionality in the way federation is done/ links are handled, thus none of the new devs take the initiative; the two main devs are occupied with other serious stuff.

Aehm, sorry for the late answer. You made a comment about my username. It came out like this from one of lingojam’s font translators. Other than it being a toy, this is the only way it’s relevant.

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From what i got to know, many people are now using some well-known but mostly criminalised (but now again put to clinical research) substances, in miniscule doses, successfully for anxiety relief. Of course, i can not directly recommend trying them as reactions, at least in large psychedelic doses, are widely unpredictable and i do not know about their use in general anxiety (although i’d love to know). Procurement will likely be illegal too, so one has to find a trusted source and should make use of test kits for purity testing. All i can say is that they are generally seen as non-addictive. We are adviced to do our own research, not least on their usefulness together with other medications (ie. neuroleptice, benzodiazepines, barbiturates).

haha that just so happened that it fell over! 🙃
https://lingojam.com/

Out of browsing autism issues, and out of online for the day, actually. I like this community but when 80% of memes fit to me, i start to feel more handicapped and it’s draining. I wish i could meet certain people in person. Online “community” is just not real enough and can make feel lonely.

Edit: some context … This particular meme story here talks about hiding one’s idiosyncrasies, as part of what we call masking. I started discovering my own neurodiversity the classic way (which is also the hard way) – by having an autistic burn-out. Not only is this kind of masking very demanding (i was unconsciously always on alert for “danger” of meeting strangers), but it’s also stealing the joy from living. I could choose between dreaming along freely but lonely, or being among people but constantly watching my behaviour … so long until all energy was drained and i couldn’t do it anymore. Fortunately for me, a certain miss Greta Thunberg was in the news in those days, and she gave it all a name …
This meme makes me sad and quite anxious. It reminds me that i’m still doing that stupid thing far too much … “am i acting weird? what will the others think?” … damn!

Shit so relatable again …
Need to get out of here.

Bookmarked!
This film is excellent work. Everything, the camera work, the sound, the choice of music to help tell the story. Invasion, unease, confusion, hypersensitivity, the internalising of stress, sensory overwhelm, loneliness … literally made tangible in seven-and-a-half minutes. Watched it three times and with earbuds too, and i felt like having lost track of time while watching it. Thought it was like three minutes short but it’s actually a five minute walk.

Penguins fly underwater (and they create their own air bubble if they need to go faster). :-)

I guess it means the DuckDuckGo Browser?
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Aha that’s a postgres default? I was looking into the code to see some of the DB structure. And i thought, well i made over 100 comments in 2 weeks so it wouldn’t take too long until that 32-bit space is used up (in normal operation with some more users).