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Cake day: June 25th, 2023
  • DessertStorms@kbin.socialtoADHD memes@lemmy.dbzer0.com•If I don't overshoot my planned sleeping time by 1 hour doomscrolling, I'm usually sick.
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    5 months ago

    Lmfao, that’s a lot of condescending words to say “no, I will absolutely NOT listen to the people whose space I’m encroaching on and try to learn about their experience and do better for their benefit (or simply walk away), I WILL continue to always centre myself, because that’s all I care about”.

    I’ve been on the receiving end of righteous anger for giving neurotypical advice before

    And yet the thought to, you know, just fucking not never seems to have crossed your mind…

    The “experience I’m facing” that is causing me “anger” is you and your behaviour, no amount of twisting things to justify it to yourself changes that, the least you can do is take some accountability (lmfao, as if… This entire thread is absolutely textbook NT behaviour, including the framing me as “emotional” and yourself as “logical”, and you’ve already made it clear that you don’t give a shit about the impact of your own actions).

    Sorry it came across the way it did. I’ll try to be more careful about it in the future, assuming I remember.

    Fuck your non apology and your insistent on there being a next time for you to be “careful about it” - you don’t need to “be careful”, what you need is to have some respect for spaces that aren’t for you and the people they are for, and resist your desperate need to insert yourself and your unsolicited unhelpful and uninformed opinions absolutely everywhere.

    I thought expressing a bit of solidarity

    TIL solidarity means privileged people talking over the experiences of marginalise people in their own space 🙄

  • DessertStorms@kbin.socialtoADHD memes@lemmy.dbzer0.com•If I don't overshoot my planned sleeping time by 1 hour doomscrolling, I'm usually sick.
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    5 months ago

    I’m autistic and I’m the same but for me it’s less about going a minute without stimulation, more about not wanting to be alone with my thoughts because they’re constant and horrible at best.

    Without my tv and pc always on around me (and weed) I don’t think I could sleep at all (pc to scroll/read till my eyes get sleepy, and tv to give my brain external conversation to focus on rather than the one going on in my brain). Even then it’s a struggle, but I’m still 100% more likely to get some sleep with these things on, than I am without (I don’t consider crying for several hours in either frustration or deep despair until my eyes can’t stay open anymore a good enough alternative ¯\(ツ)/¯).

  • DessertStorms@kbin.socialtoADHD memes@lemmy.dbzer0.com•If I don't overshoot my planned sleeping time by 1 hour doomscrolling, I'm usually sick.
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    5 months ago

    Not everything is about or for you, you don’t always have to chip in, and this is a perfect example of a time where you actually have nothing of much value to contribute to the conversation so should just taken a seat and listen (if you must. Again - some things simply aren’t for you and it’s ok to move on without piping up).

    You are literally being the top person in the meme who doesn’t get it. We face several of you a day every single day of our lives.

    I hope you take this opportunity to learn and do better in the future, instead of trying to justify, and continuing to centre yourself in conversations that aren’t for you.

  • DessertStorms@kbin.socialtoChat@beehaw.org•Ableism
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    5 months ago

    It’s always nice to meet a fellow link collector lol

    I’ll admit it might be a while since I’ve read some of these myself (or in the case of the book pdf - not fully yet) so they might not all be up to date, but the gist should still stand.

  • DessertStorms@kbin.socialtoChat@beehaw.org•Ableism
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    5 months ago

    I’m seriously not debating this with someone trying so hard to justify continuing to use intelligence based insults that they literally compare disabled people to Nazis (who are not, and never have been a marginalised and oppressed group like the disabled people they literally mass murdered. Fuck you) to try and make their logic work.

    If you are actually willing and able to set your defensiveness and biases aside, feel free to read through the links I left in reply Vodulas, or continue to do your own research in to what disabled people have to say about the matter, not those who aren’t directly impacted.

    Either way, I am here to reassure a comrade, not philosophise with ableds about ableism, you either listen to disabled people and do your best to be an ally, or you don’t, that’s your choice.

  • DessertStorms@kbin.socialtoChat@beehaw.org•Ableism
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    5 months ago

    You’re not imagining it.

    I’ve seen it (and many other ableist slurs) used far too often, especially for a site that is generally supposed to be more left leaning (which tbf isn’t saying much when it comes to combatting ableism because we seem to have very few true allies) but is also full of tech-bros, who love punching down at others based on perceived intelligence, and who also have quite a lot of crossover with 4chan type cesspits, so sadly it isn’t unexpected.

    I call it out it when I see it, and generally block and report, but what I find most frustrating is that mods throughout lemmy/fediverse (again, even on the most supposedly left leaning instances like lemmy.ml) just ignore the reports and don’t remove the comments (I know people are busy, I don’t expect instant action, I give it a week or two in general before I check the modlog).
    I’ve had to block several large communities, most that I’m actually interested in (mostly tech and science related, again, places where people love feeling superior based on perceived intelligence), because I get the message - making people like me feel safe and included isn’t a priority in those spaces, so I refuse to occupy them.

    Whether the privileged group accept it or not, that is the result of using slurs - making already marginalised people feel unwelcome and excluded.

    And when they tell me not to be so easily offended, I link this (or maybe this or this) with the full knowledge that they will probably never read it, but with the hope that someone else might, and that it might make them reconsider their use of certain words (though I don’t hold my breath in anticipation of society at large giving a shit).

  • DessertStorms@kbin.socialtoAutism@lemmy.world•Please, I'm new here: Is this normal?
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    6 months ago

    Jfc, you’re a rude condescending ass, and are a much bigger issue in all of this than your ill-conceived bot is.

    Your bot is _not _ a part of the autistic community, no matter how much it may have helped you personally (I’ll repeat - you designed it to help you, it is clearly not what other, actual members of this community are looking for or interested in. Take the L and move on instead of blaming everyone else and pretending we’re simply all too ignorant to understand your genius. That’s not what’s happening here)