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  • BonkTheAnnoyed@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonerule
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    22 days ago

    From where I’m sitting, a 55yo who came out eight years ago, the biggest thing I deal with is grief.

    I tried to come out at 23 – young for the 90’s! – but chickened out in part because of some gatekeeping and also fear. So. Much. Fear. Even then though, my voice had dropped, my beard come in, and and and…

    But I was young and hot and around beautiful slackers who would have loved me regardless, and now I carry the grief of 33 years of coulda-been.

    That’s the price of transitioning in middle age, for me at least.

    You might think that an old like me might be resentful of the opportunities available for trans youth today. Absolutely not! Seeing young adults who never had to go through the “wrong” puberty, that gives me so much hope and joy!

    I grieve now for the kids who are seeing that hope deferred.

    I guess what I’m getting at is that any age you transition at, there may be lost time to grieve, but more than that, it’s something to be treasured beyond value.

    I celebrate each and every one of you 💕