AttackBunny

It’s not about needing a safe space. It’s when you say something, and then someone comes by and starts picking apart one piece of what you said. Which never even relates to the conversation at hand anyhow. Or they try to “correct” you about some ridiculously minute grammar mistake/word choice. Or even better, they interpret what you’re trying to say completely wrong, and go on the offensive.

Sadly no. I guess it’s a good thing. I’m just not on any social media much now.

I came over with the initial reddit defector wave. I loved it here. You could have civil conversations, even when you disagreed with someone else. It honestly felt like the forums of the early 2000s again. Then it started getting more aggressive, and all the “well…aksually” type replies started happening. I find myself hardly on lemmy/kbin/beehaw anymore because of it.

Maybe I’m dumb, but if I go buy property in Mexico (for instance) and the government decides to take it, or I stop paying on it, or run out of money, I don’t get any protections for my money. I can’t file for bankruptcy and keep my money safe. I gambled and lost.

Why do non American companies/people have the opportunity to file for bankruptcy as protection in a country they aren’t beholden to the rules of?

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You’re not alone. There are a lot of people in your position. As others have said, it may make sense to set reasonable goals, and give yourself a small reward when you pay off a card or reach another milestone you set.

As someone else said, pay minimums on everything, except the smallest card, where you put all the disposable income toward. That will get paid off quickest, and then you move to the next smallest. The only way I can think of this being a bad plan is if you have a large debt with a significantly higher interest rate, in which case pay as much to that as you can, then move down the line.

That OSHA warning is great.

It sounds like I’m about the same age as you. Yeah, it’s crazy how well it worked. I remember those VHS too. They were so awkward. It’s also crazy how many people my age STILL thinks things like unions, OSHA, workers rights, never talking to other employees about your wages, etc are bad. Like does no one look around?

I’m in my 40s, and I’m still not ready to have grey hair. I’ll keep dying it until I’m ready for it. As for the rest of the stuff people put themselves through, no thanks. I’m not trying to spend huge sums of money on treatments, peels, products, or plastic surgery.

I have a bunch of younger cousins who are like you, they just don’t give a shit about it. They and their friends don’t think it’s required to shave their legs/pits. They aren’t dying their hair, or any of the other things to keep looking younger. They saw they parents doing it all, and just don’t want to participate. I’m a little envious of their no fucks to give, but like I said, I’m not there yet.

I understand this. My early life was pretty bad. In my 20s, I got away from my family a lot more, and started living my life (mostly) how I wanted to. I’m in my 40s now, and I look significantly younger than most of my contemporaries. I’m not saying this to brag in any way. I’m simply trying to point out that stress and all those things in early life don’t HAVE to lead to anything. They make us stronger, more resilient, and capable, as much as that sucks to have gone through.

Not trying to preach or tell you anything you likely don’t already know, but as for exercising not feeling good, change it up! Find a new sport. Take a break from your usual workout. Start walking more. Look into yoga. Yoga is truly one of those things that everyone should do. It’s crazy how much is affects your day to day. Everyone I know over like 30 complains about back pain, and I used to too. I have NONE (unless I do something stupid) after I started doing yoga 5 days a week.

Also, evaluate how you eat, and what you eat. I’ve started noticing A LOT more that what I eat the days before a workout have a much bigger impact on my workout than ever. I ate terribly this weekend, and yesterday, and my morning run was so much worse than normal today. I was dragging ass, and it was HARD, even though it was my mostly flat fast run (spoiler it wasn’t fast today)

The ones in my area frequently have all the self checkouts open, and no registers with human cashiers open.

Unfortunately, there are still multiple generations of people that have been brainwashed into thinking that unions are the devil, and people should stop whining, and just get a better job. Those same people don’t see how the modern job market has changed, in addition to the obvious issues with their beliefs. I remember all the propaganda when I was younger.

Those same people also tend to rail against anything that offers THEM protections, like OSHA. It’s an uphill battle.

@Hairyblue

@tintory

It’s not. Somewhere along the way (at least in US) there was a “movement” for “body positivity”, which is great, when applied reasonably. It should be “we all have things we don’t like about ourselves, but so does everyone, so love you”. That’s totally reasonable. That’s healthy. That’s fantastic for younger people who see all the “influencers” and “models” or fashion images, and feel bad about themselves.

What it turned into was “no matter how unhealthy/obese you are, love your body, and be outspoken about it”. So, regardless of being 400lb, incredibly unhealthy, and doing major damage to yourself, love and be proud of your body.

Hell, some of my most formative years were the heroin chic era. It’s equally damaging, in the opposite direction. At least women’s clothing models are looking more and more like “normal” women, in a lot of cases.

Not only is attempted murder of a cop. It’s on fucking video. There is literal undisputed (can’t wait for the deep fake, or AI generated fake vid defenses incoming) proof he did it.

I’d guess the change on cervical exam was the nurse/doctor that did it. But as we get older, there is less natural lubrication (probably why they use gallons of lube on the speculum). If it happens next time, mention it to the doc/nurse. They can give suggestions for making it less painful (assuming they don’t suck, and tell you it’s all in your head). IIRC where you are in your cycle can also play a role (don’t quote me on that).

To answer your original questions, I think they generally get more invasive, so yeah, but as technology has improved, exams have become far less awful overall.

Yup. Apple Watch for me. It works mostly seamlessly with the rest of my Apple stuff. I don’t think any others do.

I assume people putting themselves, or their personal shit in everyone’s way.

Yes Karen, you and your five friends, walking shoulder to shoulder, on the only place for people to walk, at a slow meander, DOES obstruct everyone else. And yes, I have somewhere to be, but even if I didn’t, get the fuck out of the goddamn way.

@lagomorphlecture Oh, there is TONS of science and research behind keeping people addicted to UPFs.

_"In a recent article in the New York Times Magazine, food scientist Steven Witherly describes Cheetos as “one of the most marvelously constructed foods on the planet, in terms of pure pleasure.”

The cheese puffs’ greatest quality, Witherly says in the article, is its ability to melt in your mouth. “It’s called vanishing caloric density…If something melts down quickly, your brain thinks that there’s no calories in it…you can just keep eating it forever.”

This deception, writer Michael Moss tells us, isn’t accidental: snack food companies do a lot of research in order to design foods that fool your mind and bewitch your taste buds into a constant state of craving–a state industry insiders call “the bliss point.” To achieve this “bliss point,” Moss writes, food designers pay close attention to something called “sensory-specific satiety.”

“In lay terms,” Moss says, sensory-specific satiety “is the tendency for big, distinct flavors to overwhelm the brain, which responds by depressing your desire to have more.” To avoid this, successful junk food products like Coca-Cola and Doritos consist of “complex formulas that pique the taste buds enough to be alluring but don’t have a distinct, overriding single flavor that tells the brain to stop eating.”_ source

@Lost_Wanderer

The short answer is yes, you should worry about them. Are they ok in moderation? Sure. Are they ok when they are the main staple of your diet? Absolutely not.

For those that don’t know what the term means:

Ultra-processed foods are made mostly from substances extracted from foods, such as fats, starches, added sugars, and hydrogenated fats. They may also contain additives like artificial colors and flavors or stabilizers. Examples of these foods are frozen meals, soft drinks, hot dogs and cold cuts, fast food, packaged cookies, cakes, and salty snacks. - source

Ultra-processed foods don’t really contain any actual food. They are derived from food, but they have basically been stripped of all of their naturally occurring nutrients.

There are quite a few studies out there that show that while eating an ultra-processed diet people tend to eat a fair amount more calories (I’ve seen multiple places say 500 more calories) per day than when eating whole foods, or minimally processed. They also tend to gain weight (over a surprisingly short period of time), have higher incident of cardiovascular disease, had higher increase in fat and carb consumption, but not protein, and high incident of some cancers.

I’d also add that most people probably feel A LOT worse when eating ultra-processed foods. Just observation on my part, but people who eat terribly seem to lack energy, and seem to struggle more with things like sleeping, exercise, etc.

Well, we know that the Jan 6th “protesters” are getting 6 months, or maybe a year. The longest I’ve seen was 18 years to stupid ass Stuart Rhodes. How is what this woman did 9 years worth of time worse?

First, what do you mean by surrender? Are you surrendering him, to a shelter, and hoping he will get adopted by a nice family with a farm? If so, it won’t happen. Absolutely do NOT do this. He will go directly to euthanasia. Old dogs especially are not going to be kept to be adopted out. There are too many young, cute puppies that need homes, and the cost of keeping an older dog around is too much. If it’s a no kill shelter, his QOL will not be better in a kennel until he dies.

If you mean you are taking him to be euthanized, then take your other dog with. Both of you stay in the room when it’s done, and let him see his friends dead body. Animals know, and it will be much easier for him to know what happened to his friend, rather than think he just left him. There will be an adjustment period, and you’ll have to pay extra attention to the one you still have.

Also, as someone else said, if you are euthanizing, see if there are mobile vets in your area, who come to your home. It was honestly the best decision when we had to put my 19 year old cat down. She was comfy at home, and not panicked and in a clinical setting with all kinds of weird smells, people, noises, and all the other scary things. They handled everything, including her cremation, and notifying my regular vet for me.