Unlike Reddit, Lemmy is small enough that you can browse by New/All and it’s a reasonable amount of time to scroll back through a day’s worth of posts. I do that now and then, and if I see a post in a community I like, I’ll subscribe to it.

I originally figured I’d do that for a while, then I’d just browse by Subscribed, but I find what I mostly do is browse by Top of however long it’s been since I was last on. Like if it’s been around 24 hours, I’ll browse by Top Day.

I still have my Timex Sinclair.

I’m going to guess that “alarming rate” is something similar to the rate they were put up there.

Absolutely

This comes off like a person who has no empathy, or who assumes everyone else thinks like they do. When I was in college, I tutored math to middle school kids, and I can say with certainty that some people’s brains take to it more naturally than others. You can be very smart and still struggle with math.

And putting that aside, “enjoyment” is inherently subjective. It’s like saying most people would enjoy liver and onions if they had it cooked right. No, some people will and some people won’t. It’s okay - people are a diverse lot and it’s fine if some people don’t like what you like.

I have no idea how to have an acceptable dialog with this person anymore. Help!

Thankfully, you don’t need to! She was completely out of line and showed she had zero class. You said it was your dream wedding and your husband was happy; nothing else really matters, it was your day.

I’d likely ignore her, but I’d be tempted to only respond by saying, “Since you’re so critical of other people’s photographs, we’ll make sure not to subject you to photos of any children we have.”

No keys to anyone else’s place. Car key is a little odd: the hotel has mandatory valet parking, so I don’t have the key when I leave the room, or if I go for a walk. If I drive someplace, the valet hands me the key when they bring the car, so I do have one, but it’s not something I make sure I have when I leave.

It’s funny, for years my list was keys, wallet, and phone, and of those it’s the keys that go back the furthest. I had a key to my parents house when I was a young teen, and I’ve always carried keys with me since (I’m in my 60s now). I sold my house a couple months ago, and I’ve been living in a hotel until I close on a condo, and it feels so strange not to own any keys now, just the key card for the hotel.

Yep. And some of it’s so obvious. I mean, has anyone forgotten when a bunch of Republican (and only Republican) senators went to Russia for a July 4th visit?

It’s absurd how wildly successful Putin has been.

I honestly don’t think stupidity explains all of Trump’s decisions nearly as well.

Here’s the one conspiracy theory that always sticks with me because it explains everything. Putin’s number one goal for decades has been to destabilize the United States. That’s why Russian troll farms have posted things supporting both sides of decisive issues for ages. He doesn’t care about the issue, just that Americans fight over them. Trump has been mixed up with the Russian Mafia since his real estate days, and Putin has a lot of dirt on him. Since becoming president, Trump has appointed people most likely to disrupt or destroy the organizations they’re in charge of. The person who wants to get rid of the department of education gets put in charge of it. The person who doesn’t believe in science and who believes junk conspiracy theories, gets appointed health and human services. Many more examples. The goal is to make the government fall apart.

So in that context, Hegseth doing this works either way. If he gets the military brass to fall in line and go against the Constitution, Putin wins. If he tries and the military brass goes against the commander in chief, Putin still wins. The goal is destabilizing the country and taking down the government.

Very, very different. With tri-tip, you’re going to want to get it like 5 degrees from medium rare, then sear it on a grill or pan. It’s a very short smoke.

Brisket is a very long smoke, easily 16+ hours, and it’s easy to mess up. I usually recommend people do a pork shoulder (pulled pork) before brisket. You cook it exactly the same way, just a different rub, but the meat is much more forgiving and much cheaper (still delicious). Get that dialed in, then do the brisket.

If you’re not sure about the hassle, the electric ones that look like a mini fridge work pretty well and hold a temp like an oven. No charcoal, just chips. You won’t get a smoke ring on red meat, but it’s a myth that a ring has anything to do with flavor.

It’s very important, but overnight isn’t really necessary. I pull them from the fridge, wash the curing stuff off, pat them dry with paper towels, put them on a drying rack, and let them sit while I get the smoker ready and the smoke goes from white to blue, and they come up to room temperature. Seems to work fine that way.

Oh, I’m with you, and I don’t need or want the endless growth thing. I was on Reddit a long time, and saw the good and bad of the huge user base.

But it’s kind of like when you have a favorite neighborhood restaurant: you don’t want it to get so successful that it’s always crowded and you can’t get a table, but you also want it to do well enough that it stays in business. If the Lemmy use base declines too much, there won’t be a reason for people to come here and we’ll lose our little corner of the Internet.

Practically speaking, there’s no good way around it. If you could block them seeing you, they could just make another account to follow you with.

Some of the fancy ones have sensors to make sure it’s not burning, so if you’re trying to make them go while empty it looks like really hot toast and is going to automatically pop.

It’s similar to Reddit, but one of the defining features is that it’s not owned by a company, or by anyone at all. Anyone can stand up a Lemmy instance and participate as a part of the distributed system. All the instances can interact (federate) with all of the others, or choose not to with specific instances.

Currently there is only a fraction of the user base on Lemmy as on Reddit, so there’s less content. There are also a lot fewer bots and trolls, so conversations tend to be more civil.

Because getting started on Lemmy is slightly more complicated than Reddit, more of the user base tends to be technically inclined, and they tend to be more liberal, so you’ll find Lemmy is more left leaning generally.

I believe the browsing style defaults to “local,” which means only content on your local instance. Change that to “all” and you’ll see more. The other selector let’s you see different sorting views - if you’re new you might start with “top week” or similar to see what has they most upvotes over they last seven days.

Welcome!

Good point. Also worth noting that, since Lemmy isn’t owned by a company trying to make a profit, there’s no incentive to put up with outrageous jerks who drive up engagement.