• DrWeevilJammer@lemmy.ml
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    11 months ago

    If I was going to disappoint them anyway I might as well do it without torturing myself in the process, right?

    …but how do you keep yourself from torturing yourself for disappointing yourself?

    • Taniwha420@lemmy.world
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      11 months ago

      Yeah, there’s a part of me still believes I should be doing more. After my marriage failed it took a lot of feedback and journaling to accept that despite some human failings, I’m a good dad! My kids love being with me. I know them. I care for them, and I’m constantly getting better. (I ended up in subsidized housing, and there are a bunch of mums here that know what a shitty man looks like. They’ve done wonders for my self esteem.)