Well, you could pause until you know that you are ready to pay attention.
Which means forgetting that you had it paused and maybe noticing 3 hours later.
It stuns me that I was so unaware I had ADHD for so long when shit like that is so relatable.
The problem is that adhd symptoms are relatable to everyone.
“YouR JuST so LazY!” points to PILES of work “BUT YOU NEVER FINISH, JUST STOP HAVING THAT BRAIN”
My wife and I (both adhd) have a running joke where when one of us asks the other if they need anything, we always respond with, “a new brain.”
Warning for Rule 1.
Get ready to unpause, but it has disconnected you due to inactivity. You shrug and go back to phone
until you know that you are ready to pay attention.
But that requires me to pay attention to my level of attention.
I often put YouTube videos on 2x. Takes all the attention without getting boring and it also saves time.
The other day while practicing piano I played white noise on my headphones so that I could barely hear the piano. It took all my attention to hear myself and I didn’t forget what I was playing halfway through the piece.
It doesn’t help that in some of these youtube videos, especially the tutorial/teaching kind, people seem to like to speak as slowly as humanly possible.
Doesn’t even have to be on the phone. Just watching something, and then just a slightest thought pups up, and I’m gone. 5min later fuck! I missed it again. Sometimes it takes me 2 hours to watch a 30 min show.
I strongly relate to this
There’s that expression about people having their head on the clouds, but I just get lost in my own head. I can spend an entire 5 hour flight with nothing but my own thoughts.
I can’t watch TV shows when my brain is on to something.
This
subcommunity again! Looks like I need to get diagnosedI have been feeling like that for 6 months now, any day now
Put your phone away from your reach when watching a show.
I’ve been giving Netflix bad data for years
This is why I have to put my phone far away from me during shows and movies lol
If I’m not doing something with my hands then I won’t be able to tell you what happened in the movie. Even if I was staring unmoving and quiet at the screen the whole time.
Fidget toys. Legitimately, toys for fidgeting children. There are all kinds of designs available. That’s how I manage mine. My significant other (who also has ADHD) does the phone thing but none of the problem mitigation and it drives me nuts!
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Yeah I get that, I just know if I do it with my phone that I’ll end up missing stuff lol. I like to do Rubik’s cubes
It gets worse when there was a long lead-up to it and you pretty much have to restart the video from the beginning.
Relatable af
For me it’s Google maps and audiobooks/podcasts.
It speaks over what I’m listening to, so I skip back 30 seconds, then it speaks again. I had it happen like 6 times in a row the other day where I was listening to the same 25 sex nds repeatedly because Google wouldn’t shut the fuck up.
Exit in 1 mile then turn right. Got it. Now stfu.
… Just mute it dude why do you do this to yourself
I like having audible directions so I don’t need to look at a screen. I just want fewer of them.
It seriously needs a “less verbose” mode somewhere between the current “won’t shut the hell up” and “will only speak after you missed your exit” modes.
If I set a destination while at home, I don’t need instructions on how to get out of my damn driveway. Google absolutely knows I know my way to the freeway because they track me doing it every day. Just say “Make your way towards I-10” and shut up for a bit.
I rewind to far back. Skip to far forward and spoil the scene.
Stop tweeting stuff from my life!
You can ask your family what happened only to find out they weren’t watching either.
I will be watching a show, flick through the channels during the commercial break and forget what I was watching.
At least with streaming I can just put on my comfort shows (basically anything that comes on adult swim) and just rewatch them over and over. That way there’s still background noise and because I’ve seen the same episodes a hundred times it doesn’t matter if I lose track because I’ve already seen it a hundred times.
I blame the skip duration. Yt default is 5s, when playing at 2.5x speed (set via an extension) that becomes effectively 2s. It’s perfect. If I need more I just press it again.
I have jellyfin set up and (at least on the webbrowser) the default is 30s. Seriously? Why would anyone need 30s skipping? I had the same issue as you before - but only on jellyfin, with YouTube I almost always hit the exact moment I need.
Some codecs (and by extension, some video players), tend to hitch when skipping backwards since they don’t necessarily store enough keyframes.
So if you have a choice between “skip back three times and get the weird half-decoded video or hitching three times” vs “skip back too much and then skip forward/watch the video”, the latter can technically provide a better experience. Especially if you’re streaming the data and it may have discarded what you’ve watched already or you’ve skipped a chunk and it was never loaded.
On YouTube desktop site you can use JKL for -10 pause/play +10 or left space right for -5 pause/play +5 respectively. As well as frame by frame with < > keys while paused.