From my perspective, “please calm yourself down” isn’t designed to tell the other person how to feel but how to present themselves when they interact with me. But yeah, I see how it could be viewed from that perspective.
Part of my reasoning is be who I’ve had yell at me in the past when I haven’t done anything to deserve it (family, colleagues). In those cases, I expect them to maintain a civil tone, which isn’t yelling imo. Honestly I don’t really care if they’re boiling with rage underneath but I expect them not to abuse me if they want to continue interacting with me.
An interesting take I hadn’t considered.
From my perspective, “please calm yourself down” isn’t designed to tell the other person how to feel but how to present themselves when they interact with me. But yeah, I see how it could be viewed from that perspective.
Part of my reasoning is be who I’ve had yell at me in the past when I haven’t done anything to deserve it (family, colleagues). In those cases, I expect them to maintain a civil tone, which isn’t yelling imo. Honestly I don’t really care if they’re boiling with rage underneath but I expect them not to abuse me if they want to continue interacting with me.