I asked what we meant and she replied with: “no wonder you don’t know”

then I said if she wanted to be, and that if she didn’t want me to talk to her then I wouldn’t

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    The “talking phase” is an extremely common term for a specific place in a relationship, especially for younger people.

    I personally don’t use it because it leaves too much ambuguity but that’s not up to me.

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      What specific phase is it? I know you mention there is ambiguity, but is it something before asking someone on a serious date? Is it after a few dates and deciding if things are serious?

      I think all I was saying is that you can’t give advice like ‘don’t pussyfoot around, just answer the question’ when a big part of the topic is ‘what does this question mean?’

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        It’s when you’re both interested and talking to each other with intent but haven’t started actively dating.

        The ambiguity, to me, is that it usually hasn’t been long enough to find out whether you’re exclusive or not, which is why i dont even label this phase.

        It’s fine if you don’t apply a certain meaning to it but plenty of people do. Obviously you would just ask them what they mean.

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      The post you are commenting in is literally an 18 year old who doesn’t know what “talking phase” means, in fact you seem to be the only one in this entire comment section who has heard it before. Kinda a big Stacy to call the phrase “extremely common”.